What to tell a girl who didn't get a bid

[Eleutheria]

We have three NPC sororities at my school, and recruitment isn't exactly run as well as it should be. I was given a bid to a sorority, but because of the whole matching process, my bid card was lost in the shuffle, and I got bumped. In retrospect, it turned out to be much better for me to be non-greek. I joined Alpha Phi Omega instead, and have gotten a lot more out of it than had I joined a sorority. Quite honestly, if a group isn't going to give you a bid you DON'T WANT TO BE part of that group.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Eleutheria

I was given a bid to a sorority, but because of the whole matching process, my bid card was lost in the shuffle, and I got bumped. In retrospect, it turned out to be much better for me to be non-greek.

Just curious, but how do you know this for certain? Bid matching at all schools is supposed to be private. Is this something you heard straight from someone involved with recruitment like a recruitment counselor or someone who worked in the Greek Life office? Or is this something you "heard" from a sorority member?

I'm just confused because if you were matched but for some reason they lost your actual card, someone should have contacted you right away and let you know that there'd been a mix-up and that you were invited to join ____ and you were on their list but they just couldn't find your card.

[PhoenixAzul]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Just curious, but how do you know this for certain? Bid matching at all schools is supposed to be private. Is this something you heard straight from someone involved with recruitment like a recruitment counselor or someone who worked in the Greek Life office? Or is this something you "heard" from a sorority member?

I'm just confused because if you were matched but for some reason they lost your actual card, someone should have contacted you right away and let you know that there'd been a mix-up and that you were invited to join ____ and you were on their list but they just couldn't find your card.

Not saying that this happened but here's an instance.

During bid-matching, PX's were called with their girls who did not receive a bid. Let's say Jane Doe was on that list. She received a call from her PX so she didn't come to closing ceremony/meeting. However, Jamie Smith was NOT on the list, so she is not called. Rho Chi's assume that she got a bid, as she's done well in recruitment, is generally a nice girl, etc. Monday rolls around and there's no bid for Jamie. So we call up Greek life and ask , "Greek life, we're pretty sure that Jamie got a bid, but we didn't receive a card for her. What's the deal?". Greek life confirms that yes, they have Jamie for matching to XYZ group. So there is no card, so PX must now ask Jamie if she'd like to accept/reject bid.

I only offer this as an example because it happened to me in my PX group this year! It was horrifically embarrassing and really upsetting to me because I was terrified that the girl had actually NOT matched and had shown up only to be crushed. Turns out she got the group she wanted and was quite happy, but still, it was nerve wracking.