What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Nah, I'm one of the luckiest humans on the Earth and I would probably tease her about this, even on a first date - however, it would be just that: teasing. I'm not sure there's really a difference, but it would probably be funny to joke about (especially w/ the mutual sarcasm thing), and first dates are all about getting over that kind of thing.

Also I can't imagine why any of this (other than maybe 'rents as doctors) would ever come up, so it's probably moot.

However, now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I tease her for this right now, so I'm probably not the best judge. I'm definitely the mayor of my own town over here . . .

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by FAB*SpiceySpice

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

Yeah - word, it's also probably the difference between growing up/going to school with people who drove Lexuses and didn't have to work (like, uh, the chapter ksigkid and I were in) and being used to it on some level, versus some sort of "we against they" mentality . . . the classic "oh you're one of those rich kids" uncomfortable reaction?

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down) - well, maybe like "punching me in the face" or "locking kids in the car to meet for drinks at the bar" but there simply aren't many bigger.

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down).

Exactly what I was trying to get at, thank you.