What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Red flags:
-Having no sense of humor and/or not being able to take my jokes (I can't help it, I've always been a sarcastic person and that's not ever going to change)
-Someone who makes fun of me b/c I drive a Lexus, have doctors for parents, and still get an allowance (this happens way too often sadly).
-Talking about themselves and how great they are constantly...so annoying
-Being "too nice" (ie always agreeing with me, telling me what they think I "want" to hear, being a pushover)
-Bad grammar, I can't stand it when guys say things like "I ain't done that yet" or "I seen them yesterday" or "He don't need my help with that"...wtf, seriously!!! I just don't get this at all.
-Someone who doesn't like dogs, especially MY DOG. My dog is like my child, and he sleeps in my bed everynight so if you don't like him, too bad...definitely not the person for me.
-Any guy that compliments me only on the way I look, after they've gotten to know me better. It's nice that you think I'm beautiful or whatever, but I love myself b/c of the person that I am, not b/c of what I look like...
-Constant talking about their ex and even worse comparing me to them

I'm sure I have lots more, but that's enough for now.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by FAB*SpiceySpice

Red flags:
-Someone who makes fun of me b/c I drive a Lexus, have doctors for parents, and still get an allowance (this happens way too often sadly).

I'd make fun of you, too.

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I'd make fun of you, too.

People who make fun are usually jealous and they probably wish they could be so lucky.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by OTW

People who make fun are usually jealous and they probably wish they could be so lucky.

Nah, I'm one of the luckiest humans on the Earth and I would probably tease her about this, even on a first date - however, it would be just that: teasing. I'm not sure there's really a difference, but it would probably be funny to joke about (especially w/ the mutual sarcasm thing), and first dates are all about getting over that kind of thing.

Also I can't imagine why any of this (other than maybe 'rents as doctors) would ever come up, so it's probably moot.

However, now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I tease her for this right now, so I'm probably not the best judge. I'm definitely the mayor of my own town over here . . .

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Nah, I'm one of the luckiest humans on the Earth and I would probably tease her about this, even on a first date - however, it would be just that: teasing. I'm not sure there's really a difference, but it would probably be funny to joke about (especially w/ the mutual sarcasm thing), and first dates are all about getting over that kind of thing.

Also I can't imagine why any of this (other than maybe 'rents as doctors) would ever come up, so it's probably moot.

However, now that I think about it, I'm pretty sure I tease her for this right now, so I'm probably not the best judge. I'm definitely the mayor of my own town over here . . .

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by FAB*SpiceySpice

Thanks Rob, I love you too. I don't know why this kind of thing comes up as often as it does, but sadly it happens. If a guy asks me about my job (and I never hardly had one in college) he would always want to know how I could pay any of my bills with no income, people are just nosy I guess. And if they ever saw my car or even my stupid car keys (yeah that happened once) they'd immediately make fun of me for it. I can deal with teasing, that's not a problem, but I can also tell the difference between being teased (sarcasm or whatever) and someone who actually thinks less of me as a person b/c of these things.

Yeah - word, it's also probably the difference between growing up/going to school with people who drove Lexuses and didn't have to work (like, uh, the chapter ksigkid and I were in) and being used to it on some level, versus some sort of "we against they" mentality . . . the classic "oh you're one of those rich kids" uncomfortable reaction?

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down) - well, maybe like "punching me in the face" or "locking kids in the car to meet for drinks at the bar" but there simply aren't many bigger.

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I can't imagine a bigger red flag than "thinking less of me as a person because of things that really aren't in my control" (which is essentially how this parses, when you really break it down).

Exactly what I was trying to get at, thank you.

[KSigkid]

Originally Posted by FAB*SpiceySpice

Red flags:
-Someone who makes fun of me b/c I drive a Lexus, have doctors for parents, and still get an allowance (this happens way too often sadly).

Definitely, and I think, for the most part, bringing up family money (or lack thereof) would be kind of tasteless on the first date anyway. That, is, unless it's like RC's case, where you know the person enough to get away with a little kidding around.

Like Rob said, some people are just more used to it because of maturity, environment, etc. I never really had to deal with it on dates; girls would ask why I was working two jobs during undergrad, but when I explained it was to pay for school, none really asked further. In fact, the only girl who got the full story was probably my wife...

However, a talk on money and/or family money would be enough to turn off anyone on the first date.