Worst person ever gives Dunkin Donuts workers hell over missing receipt

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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

With me, I'm not missing your point, and you aren't missing mine. We don't agree, that's what it is. I understand that people here are venting. You and I have already discussed that. My point was an "asshole" (if that's what you want to call them) is going to be an "asshole" regardless. They are always right in their own eyes, and that is a character issue. It is a character issue because it is based on that person's experiences long before she/he got to the person she/he is mistreating or being an "asshole" to. These people don't offer much grace for other people's failings or mistakes because they can't relate to anything other than their own experiences (based on how they were raised). And a character is not someone you pretend to be, it is who you are. And that simply is based on years of conditioning, which comes from your parents, teachers, family, friends, etc. and/or who you associate yourself with. So once again, it has very little to do with a receipt, or with the clerk.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Right. I'm speaking of how you were raised, and what you grew up observing from your family and the environment around you. Your family is not optional. We don't get to choose who these people are (good or bad). Therefore, you will in "inherit" data from your family, past experiences, conversations, and observations, which will greatly influence your decisions as an adult. Your thoughts determine your decisions, and your decisions determine your future and how you interact and connect with others. Get it? This is why I don't believe a woman or a man has to "walk in someone else's shoes" to be respectable to others. If they are rude, it has little, if nothing at all to do with you, because they were already that way before they got to you.

Ironically, you're arguing our point by saying that experiences are what shape a person's attitudes and actions.

We're not arguing that people HAVE to walk in someone else's shoes to be respectable to others, but that it CAN happen, and that some people are respectful regardless of whether or not they've shared a similar experience.

The end.