Disappointed mom

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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

Furthermore, if you do go out of state then your social standing doesn't really matter...you know? You're sort of that lost child. But if you stay in state, you could climb socially.

I understand where she's coming from. She feels like she raised an upstanding woman...if her daughter didn't make it into a top-tiered sorority, she feels like she failed raising her properly. It comes back on the mom. It's like raising a serial killer, you feel like you failed as parents. Sorority rush is the litmus test of proper raising. I sympathize with the situation.

What the Hell?? I live in the south and have two children in SEC schools who are Greek and I have never encountered this type of social pressure!!!! Going Greek is not the end all be all here in the south that some people are making it out to be. Plenty of kids from prominent families don't even go Greek and it isn't an issue at all. Sorority rush is not a 'litmus test for proper raising' and being in a top sorority does not mean you were raised to be an upstanding young woman and most Southerners are well aware of this. I wouldn't be surprised if the OP was a sock puppet and the master was EW.