Dating someone with a mental illness - Page 4

AlexMack · #46 09-10-2006, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus

Have you found that people either really like you or really hate you because of the 'H'?

People are totally like that with me, I wonder if this is a common thing.

Not too much, but I don't know if running your mouth is included under the 'H'. If so, then yes, I agree with you.
I have a bad habit of constantly jiggling my leg, tapping my foot or fingers, playing with a paperclip or anything else I can find. Some people just cannot be around me because I feel compelled to do these things.
And I'm a big blurter too...

paul1 · #47 09-10-2006, 03:59 PM

I've been dating a lady for 7months who is bipolar , and takes meds . there are some weird things going on and i don't know if its her condition or not . example in the time we have been dating i have never meet her parents or even been invited to her house . she is in law enforcement and it seems everything is on her time schedule . she tells me she loves me and i her . in the recent past she was talking about a ex boyfriend and when i told her it was uncool to do so she said " i just wont talk about my past i guess ' nice huh ? she is also divorced and has worn her wedding ring in front of me and still carries her married id from Canada. i recently had a birthday , and she got me 2 shirts , a few days later she through the shirts in the street and wasn't sorry at all and hasn't replaced them , seems to not matter . there is more just some of it . any suggestions would be welcome .. thanks

RU OX Alum · #48 09-13-2006, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by paul1

I've been dating a lady for 7months who is bipolar , and takes meds . there are some weird things going on and i don't know if its her condition or not . example in the time we have been dating i have never meet her parents or even been invited to her house . she is in law enforcement and it seems everything is on her time schedule . she tells me she loves me and i her . in the recent past she was talking about a ex boyfriend and when i told her it was uncool to do so she said " i just wont talk about my past i guess ' nice huh ? she is also divorced and has worn her wedding ring in front of me and still carries her married id from Canada. i recently had a birthday , and she got me 2 shirts , a few days later she through the shirts in the street and wasn't sorry at all and hasn't replaced them , seems to not matter . there is more just some of it . any suggestions would be welcome .. thanks

You might not like this but....your girlfriend is sick. I know because i have the same sickness. Make a decision as to whether or not you want to help her get better. If so, you might be in for a rough ride. But if you're not going to help her get better, you should go ahead and break up with her. It wouldn't be fair to either one of you to continue.

Also, which types of meds does she take? because about 9 times out of 10 the meds will make the symptons worse. Mine did. It's the most under-researched disorder there is. They know next to nothing about it. Good luck with whatever you decide.

RU OX Alum · #49 09-13-2006, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by centaur532

Not too much, but I don't know if running your mouth is included under the 'H'. If so, then yes, I agree with you.
I have a bad habit of constantly jiggling my leg, tapping my foot or fingers, playing with a paperclip or anything else I can find. Some people just cannot be around me because I feel compelled to do these things.
And I'm a big blurter too...

Me too, especially with the leg thing. I used to get in trouble for it at school

sugarplumfairy · #50 09-13-2006, 01:50 PM

In this day and age...hard telling if someone is "normal" b/c it's so hard to define anymore.

SydneyK · #51 09-13-2006, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by sugarplumfairy

In this day and age...hard telling if someone is "normal" b/c it's so hard to define anymore.

True, but it's easy to recognize "not normal". In my opinion, if you have to take meds to appear normal, you're too high-maintenance for me.

Of course, there are exceptions to this (anti-depressants for PPD, for instance). But, since I'm married and female, (and straight), I don't have to worry about dating someone with PPD.

paul1 · #52 09-14-2006, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

You might not like this but....your girlfriend is sick. I know because i have the same sickness. Make a decision as to whether or not you want to help her get better. If so, you might be in for a rough ride. But if you're not going to help her get better, you should go ahead and break up with her. It wouldn't be fair to either one of you to continue.

Also, which types of meds does she take? because about 9 times out of 10 the meds will make the symptons worse. Mine did. It's the most under-researched disorder there is. They know next to nothing about it. Good luck with whatever you decide.

she takes 600mg of lithium and seriqual , she said there was no getting better , have been and will be there for her . Even tho some of her actions hurt ! She stays up for days also , guess its mania .

RU OX Alum · #53 09-15-2006, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by paul1

she takes 600mg of lithium and seriqual , she said there was no getting better , have been and will be there for her . Even tho some of her actions hurt ! She stays up for days also , guess its mania .

hypomania, which is one level below, and approaching mania, is what it sounds like.

I recommend counceling in addition to medication. You're right it sucks.

Coramoor · #54 09-27-2006, 07:13 PM

Girls are crazy enough as is. No need to add in additional mental illnesses.

KAY10 · #55 09-27-2006, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Coramoor

Girls are crazy enough as is. No need to add in additional mental illnesses.

LMAO. Can't disagree with you on that one. LOL.

paul1 · #56 10-11-2006, 08:29 AM

My gf is in contact with a ex bf-lover he has been sending her pics by cell phone and texting her , she showed me the pic of him fishing . She says they are just friends . i think this is really uncool. Any thoughts ,. ??

KSig RC · #57 10-11-2006, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by paul1

My gf is in contact with a ex bf-lover he has been sending her pics by cell phone and texting her , she showed me the pic of him fishing . She says they are just friends . i think this is really uncool. Any thoughts ,. ??

yep, let me help:

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Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

You might not like this but....your girlfriend is sick.

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Originally Posted by paul1

she said there was no getting better

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Originally Posted by paul1

example in the time we have been dating i have never meet her parents or even been invited to her house . she is in law enforcement and it seems everything is on her time schedule

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Originally Posted by paul1

she is also divorced and has worn her wedding ring in front of me and still carries her married id from Canada.

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Originally Posted by paul1

a few days later she through the shirts in the street and wasn't sorry at all and hasn't replaced them , seems to not matter . there is more just some of it any suggestions would be welcome .. thanks

James · #58 10-11-2006, 01:31 PM

You are still having sex with her right? I mean she might be an idiot but as long as you are getting your needs satisfied its not all bad.

Just see other women on the side. It will give you a buffer against her behavior.

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Originally Posted by paul1

My gf is in contact with a ex bf-lover he has been sending her pics by cell phone and texting her , she showed me the pic of him fishing . She says they are just friends . i think this is really uncool. Any thoughts ,. ??

DSTCHAOS · #59 10-11-2006, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by paul1

I've been dating a lady for 7months who is bipolar , and takes meds . there are some weird things going on and i don't know if its her condition or not . example in the time we have been dating i have never meet her parents or even been invited to her house . she is in law enforcement and it seems everything is on her time schedule . she tells me she loves me and i her . in the recent past she was talking about a ex boyfriend and when i told her it was uncool to do so she said " i just wont talk about my past i guess ' nice huh ? she is also divorced and has worn her wedding ring in front of me and still carries her married id from Canada. i recently had a birthday , and she got me 2 shirts , a few days later she through the shirts in the street and wasn't sorry at all and hasn't replaced them , seems to not matter . there is more just some of it . any suggestions would be welcome .. thanks

Dump her.

I dated a dude with an "undocumented" mental illness--I guess he was bipolar with the highs and lows he went through, as well as his obsessive compulsiveness, his obsession with his career, and obsession with order and control. I always thought he was "crazy" but he refused to acknowledge it. He also refused to seek professional help but would continue to do things like suddenly yell at me over the phone for no apparent reason, then call me back apologizing (

). I dumped him after not too long and didn't think twice. He could've just been an insensitive loser but he should seek professional help just in case.

DSTCHAOS · #60 10-11-2006, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by James

You are still having sex with her right? I mean she might be an idiot but as long as you are getting your needs satisfied its not all bad.

Just see other women on the side. It will give you a buffer against her behavior.

Do not take this advice, Paul, dump her and move on with your life.

James will not be there to rescue you when your gf starts to act crazy. If you're seeing other women on the side then you can obviously get sex in a more stable environment. Your gf is disposable...it's not she has a diamond mine in her vagina.