My Boyfriend's Fraternity Hates My Sorority

[Jp685]

I hope he prefaced that with "my brothers said" and added to the end "I'm sorry honey, there's nothing I can do about it." If not, you might want to rethink your relationship.

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

[als463]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

You should be angry...that you're dating a tool.

[sigmagirl2000]

I don't think you should be sad or angry, I think you should be happy that he revealed his inner jackass now so that you can not waste any more time with a tool like him.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I hope he prefaced that with "my brothers said" and added to the end "I'm sorry honey, there's nothing I can do about it." If not, you might want to rethink your relationship.

Originally Posted by als463

You should be angry...that you're dating a tool.

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

I don't think you should be sad or angry, I think you should be happy that he revealed his inner jackass now so that you can not waste any more time with a tool like him.

My Panhellenic sisters just nailed it.

Nothing left to say.

[xibair]

Originally Posted by als463

You should be angry...that you're dating a tool.

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

I don't think you should be sad or angry, I think you should be happy that he revealed his inner jackass now so that you can not waste any more time with a tool like him.

Originally Posted by AZTheta

My Panhellenic sisters just nailed it.

Nothing left to say.

Amen Ladies!

[navane]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

This whole situation seems as if you realize that your relationship with him isn't going where you had hoped. In order to not lose him, you're trying to position your sorority as more desirable so that you, too, will be more desirable to him.

This thread has now turned

[als463]

Originally Posted by xibair

Amen Ladies!

Hahaha...Xibair and AZTheta, you ladies rock! You get it!

[Jp685]

Originally Posted by navane

This whole situation seems as if you realize that your relationship with him isn't going where you had hoped. In order to not lose him, you're trying to position your sorority as more desirable so that you, too, will be more desirable to him.

This thread has now turned

At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

[amIblue?]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I hope he prefaced that with "my brothers said" and added to the end "I'm sorry honey, there's nothing I can do about it." If not, you might want to rethink your relationship.

I second this. It also sounds as if you have some awesome sisters who have their heads on straight.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Fair enough. I'm just trying to distinguish between "these women suck" and "these women did a sucky thing once."

Which is certainly a valid distinction.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

I'm obviously in the minority here, but I don't understand the big deal. Unless you are on a campus where there are 1-3 sororities and 1-3 fraternities, I'm not sure why you are freaking out over your boyfriends frat not "doing things" with your sorority.
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If it is such a big deal to you (which you should really be finding out if it is a big deal to the rest of the chapter and not just you), you should follow the advice given and try to plan a mixer. If it's only you who really cares that your boyfriends frat isn't hanging out with y'all, you kind of just need to get over it. If your chapter as a whole doesn't care that his frat wants nothing to do with them...you then just need to let it go.

All of this.

Originally Posted by 33girl

I hope he prefaced that with "my brothers said" and added to the end "I'm sorry honey, there's nothing I can do about it." If not, you might want to rethink your relationship.

Originally Posted by als463

You should be angry...that you're dating a tool.

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

I don't think you should be sad or angry, I think you should be happy that he revealed his inner jackass now so that you can not waste any more time with a tool like him.

Originally Posted by AZTheta

My Panhellenic sisters just nailed it.

Nothing left to say.

Exactly.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Jp685

At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

Sounds like you've figured this one out. This is all stupidity anyway. You've got a group of women that have your back and that you can call true friends. You know this tier crap doesn't matter. You'll figure the rest of it out.

[AST-AI2007]

I was in almost the same situation when I was in school. Like the rest said my "boyfriend" was a tool and I left him. It works out for the better because then you won't have to see him at every party or social because you don't mix together.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Jp685

At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

I am SO glad that you came to this conclusion!! You deserve SO much better than this kind of crappy, "we are so much better than you and your sisters" attitude from him. What an ass.

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

I'm sorry you had to deal with such a shitty attitude, but I'm glad you've figured things out.