My Boyfriend's Fraternity Hates My Sorority

[Jp685]

I hope he prefaced that with "my brothers said" and added to the end "I'm sorry honey, there's nothing I can do about it." If not, you might want to rethink your relationship.

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

[als463]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

You should be angry...that you're dating a tool.

[navane]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

This whole situation seems as if you realize that your relationship with him isn't going where you had hoped. In order to not lose him, you're trying to position your sorority as more desirable so that you, too, will be more desirable to him.

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[Jp685]

Originally Posted by navane

This whole situation seems as if you realize that your relationship with him isn't going where you had hoped. In order to not lose him, you're trying to position your sorority as more desirable so that you, too, will be more desirable to him.

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At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Jp685

At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

Sounds like you've figured this one out. This is all stupidity anyway. You've got a group of women that have your back and that you can call true friends. You know this tier crap doesn't matter. You'll figure the rest of it out.

[AST-AI2007]

I was in almost the same situation when I was in school. Like the rest said my "boyfriend" was a tool and I left him. It works out for the better because then you won't have to see him at every party or social because you don't mix together.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Jp685

At first I thought the drama from 2 years ago was the reason they stopped hanging out with us, then I found out it's also because they think they are "higher ranked" than us. I just wanted our fraternity and sorority to coexist maybe do one social together, maybe have brothers invite a couple of my sisters to their parties without me having to do it. But I guess that's just not going to happen and that's fine. Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

I am SO glad that you came to this conclusion!! You deserve SO much better than this kind of crappy, "we are so much better than you and your sisters" attitude from him. What an ass.

[maconmagnolia]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I am SO glad that you came to this conclusion!! You deserve SO much better than this kind of crappy, "we are so much better than you and your sisters" attitude from him. What an ass.

Amen. Good luck to you, OP. I hope you realize that you and your sorority sisters are wonderful women who deserve better! You'll find guys who actually want to spend time with you and deserve to do so.

[navane]

Originally Posted by Jp685

Obviously I wouldn't want to mix with a fraternity that doesn't enjoy our company. And now that I know my boyfriend is in the same mindset as the rest of his brothers....I'm kind of done with his fraternity in general :/ And I might be in the market for a new boyfriend lol.

Ding ding ding! We have a winner! And I think it would be poetic justice for a guy to be dumped by a girl from a so-called "lesser sorority".

[WhiteRose1912]

Originally Posted by Jp685

He told me straight up they had higher tier sororities to mix with and I asked if he thought his fraternity was above my sorority and he answered "What? Of course not!" In the absolute most sarcastic way possible. I don't know if I should be angry or sad.

I'm sorry you had to deal with such a shitty attitude, but I'm glad you've figured things out.