still single....

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by tld221

and bitter children. ahem.

the idea that I "owe" my parents care because they cared for me is... well, there's no way to say it without being seen as a jerk.

I have a friend whose mother takes 10% of their paycheck to direct deposit into her bank account. He works in marketing, the brother is a lawyer. That must be frustrating to not have any say-so, but they oblige because, well, it's their parents.

Oh yeah, pissed off children.

Your friend and his brother better get smart. Seriously. Their mother better stop acting like she did someone a favor. She chose to have children. I understand wanting children to be grateful but that is easily taken to the extreme.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Oh yeah, pissed off children.

Your friend and his brother better get smart. Seriously. Their mother better stop acting like she did someone a favor. She chose to have children. I understand wanting children to be grateful but that is easily taken to the extreme.

They're Chinese - I chalked it up to something cultural I wasn't hip to. It could also be a class thing - feeling obligated to "give back" once you've "made it." I guess why so many of these newly drafted basketball players go buying their mamas houses and cars off top, or why many people, when presented with the age-old "what will you do if you win the lottery?" scenario, always go to paying off their (parents'/family's) debt or buying real estate.

[33girl]

I don't think of paying off debt as giving back, because once they croak, their debts become yours. Might as well take care of it first before you spend all the dough.