still single....

[wildcatpride]

ASUADPi, I've read along on these boards forever but never posted until now - but your post really hit home with me. I'm 34, single, haven't had a relationship in more than a decade, and you pretty much said exactly what I've been struggling with over the past few months. Part of me knows that I'm really good at being single (and is able to appreciate some of the freedoms that go along with it), and the other part just thinks it would be nice to have someone to cuddle with from time to time, or someone who goes with you when you move across the state. It gets lonely. And I'm a high school teacher, so not much chance of meeting eligible men in my line of work! At any rate, I just wanted to post and commiserate - and as someone who frequently gets down on myself for being single, it sort of helps to know that even people I view as cool and interesting (based on reading posts here for a long time) go through the same thing I am.

[sigmagirl2000]

Originally Posted by wildcatpride

ASUADPi, I've read along on these boards forever but never posted until now - but your post really hit home with me. I'm 34, single, haven't had a relationship in more than a decade, and you pretty much said exactly what I've been struggling with over the past few months. Part of me knows that I'm really good at being single (and is able to appreciate some of the freedoms that go along with it), and the other part just thinks it would be nice to have someone to cuddle with from time to time, or someone who goes with you when you move across the state. It gets lonely. And I'm a high school teacher, so not much chance of meeting eligible men in my line of work! At any rate, I just wanted to post and commiserate - and as someone who frequently gets down on myself for being single, it sort of helps to know that even people I view as cool and interesting (based on reading posts here for a long time) go through the same thing I am.

I got married last summer, but before that, let me tell you - as a super nerdy high school math teacher, I met PLENTY of eligible and hot, smart, intelligent, amusing, enlightening men in my line of work! Sounds like you need a new school district!

[wildcatpride]

Originally Posted by sigmagirl2000

I got married last summer, but before that, let me tell you - as a super nerdy high school math teacher, I met PLENTY of eligible and hot, smart, intelligent, amusing, enlightening men in my line of work! Sounds like you need a new school district!

Maybe I'm in the wrong state! I've taught in five different school systems in NC over the past ten years and am hoping to stay put for a while (despite the lack of single men here). There were definitely some cute unmarried men in some of my previous schools, but they usually weren't unmarried for very long.

[KAPPAcino]

I tried marriage but it didn't work. It took marriage for me to realize I wasn't cut for it. There's no way I could see myself together with one woman for the rest of my life. I'd get tired of that after the first year. After I'm done having sex, I'd rather roll over and go to sleep without cuddling, or pillow talk. I have no attachment or emotion after sex. None. Marriage is great for some people, but all the responsibility and give and take that comes with it would make me feel trapped. If I had do that with someone "until death do us part" I'd be miserable. Those words make me cringe. Sex? Yes. Marriage/LTR? No.