How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[bakd]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

^^^If you'd read the thread in its entirety, you'd see that that's really not the case at all.

Chapters see the value in extending them bids, but there are schools at which if EVERY single legacy woman were extended a bid, the class would be nothing but legacies, leaving no room for anyone else. There's also the issue of having so many and having to decide which ones get invited back.

I also think that there is a generational disconnect regarding those coming from a time when every single legacy got a bid because there were no quotas and such and those younger members for whom there are quota, RFM, etc.

It is a hot-button topic at many schools. I understand that you are probably a mom with a daughter who was released or something, and I am sorry. However, the enemy they are not. That is rather dramatic.

My double legacy daughter was cut from her legacy house last fall. Other than being cut by her legacy house, she had a perfect recruitment (and is very happy where she is now).

Because my own chapter was from out of state and not the school where dd was a PNM, if she had left off her affiliation on the rush form and if I had asked her recs to leave off our relationship, I almost feel that she would have been pledged by my sisterhood. It is when you come to this realization that you start thinking that the legacies are seen as the "enemy". Sorry for the drama.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bakd

My double legacy daughter was cut from her legacy house last fall. Other than being cut by her legacy house, she had a perfect recruitment (and is very happy where she is now).

Because my own chapter was from out of state and not the school where dd was a PNM, if she had left off her affiliation on the rush form and if I had asked her recs to leave off our relationship, I almost feel that she would have been pledged by my sisterhood. It is when you come to this realization that you start thinking that the legacies are seen as the "enemy". Sorry for the drama.

If she's happy and had a perfect recruitment, why do you care???? Go to the IU thread and read about the mess that is rush there that was made messier this year by weather and read about how many disappointed women there are.

It may also have been that she would have rather walked across hot coals than spend another minute let alone 4 years with the chapter of your group at her school, and she didn't want to convey this to you. If a rushee came up to me and said "I don't think this is the chapter for me but my mom is an alumnae and is set on it" you can bet that I'd bring that up during voting and you can bet everyone would probably try to help her out by cutting her.

[bakd]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If she's happy and had a perfect recruitment, why do you care???? Go to the IU thread and read about the mess that is rush there that was made messier this year by weather and read about how many disappointed women there are.

It may also have been that she would have rather walked across hot coals than spend another minute let alone 4 years with the chapter of your group at her school, and she didn't want to convey this to you. If a rushee came up to me and said "I don't think this is the chapter for me but my mom is an alumnae and is set on it" you can bet that I'd bring that up during voting and you can bet everyone would probably try to help her out by cutting her.

You have a very vivid imagination. But, no.

She loved the house. They would have been the same or better if she were there, too. (Based on photos, activities, and what she would have contributed via GPA, etc.)

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bakd

You have a very vivid imagination. But, no.

She loved the house. They would have been the same or better if she were there, too. (Based on photos, activities, and what she would have contributed via GPA, etc.)

Get in the wayback machine of your mind and pretend it's 1982 and you're an active collegiate member. Now read what you just wrote and tell me how it would make you feel about her, her daughter, and alumnae and legacies in general.