Received a blatant B-list invitation BY PHONE BY PROXY, what to do?

[aephi alum]

I can't give a gift at the shower (if there even is one) because I was excluded. But there is the engagement party . . .

And this was no mistake. The MOG has been blabbing for months about how this was going to be the wedding of the century, they were pulling out all the stops, it's black tie (meaning DH will have to rent a tux) and "we're really looking forward to seeing you there if there's room for you". And the RSVP date for the engagement party (for which we never did receive a formal snail-mailed invitation) was August 5, and the wedding invitation was postmarked August 6. I smell a very large rat.

Ugh, and we're probably going to be seated with my in-laws.

Start the Tanqueray IV now.

[DZsis&mom]

Originally Posted by aephi alum

"we're really looking forward to seeing you there if there's room for you".

I would not be offended by this.

For my nephew's wedding, they sent out the first round of invites & had to wait for RSVP's. As they started getting "No's", they would send out more invites. They only had so much space & if everyone they wanted to invite (even the distant relatives) came, there would not have been enough room at the venue.

Of course I was in the first round because I was the favorite Aunt !!!!

[groovypq]

Originally Posted by DZsis&mom

I would not be offended by this.

For my nephew's wedding, they sent out the first round of invites & had to wait for RSVP's. As they started getting "No's", they would send out more invites. They only had so much space & if everyone they wanted to invite (even the distant relatives) came, there would not have been enough room at the venue.

Of course I was in the first round because I was the favorite Aunt !!!!

My husband and I did this. Didn't work out quite like we would have liked because the RSVPs didn't come back that quickly, but we were able to add in people we wanted to add.

But OMG, DISCRETION PLEASE! (not your nephew, DZsis&mom) We sure as heck didn't say "we hope to see you IF there's room to invite you"!!!! We also didn't brag about it being the party of the century - cause it wasn't, it was small to begin with. Hold your tongue if you're not sure if you can invite someone.