Always a PNM, never a sister.

[AOII Angel]

I doubt that the letter is why she's not in a group. It may be a convenient way to cover something else that the Panhel President found out and did not want to discuss with her. What group would give private MS information (ie. the letter) to the Panhel Pres just because she was snooping around for information to why they did not give a PNM a bid. I agree with 33girl that the letter would still not effect her chances with the other groups. That's not how it works. OP, they should have never told you any of this because it is more hateful than not knowing at all. when people make up lies to try to spare others feelings, it often makes things worse. The answer should have been, "I'm sorry things didn't work out for you, but I cannot discuss the specifics." honestly, she can't because even as Panhell President, she doesn't know the specifics of why you were released from any group other than HERS. #1- I can guarantee that except for DZ it isn't true. #2- unfortunately- relationship dynamics play a part in membership selection at some chapters. When you room with an upper classman and things don't go so well (even if you think they do) it can spell disaster for your recruitment. #3- move on. Enjoy the rest of your college experience.