Always a PNM, never a sister.

[ellebud]

I am a friend of the mother of one of the girls who did this at a large greek system on the other side of the United States. There was bad blood between the daughter and this girl from high school. Despite her mother's asking to let it go the daughter read her letter to us. It was sent to all the houses, including her own. Daughter wanted it all "on the record". (And yes, we leave the west coast...occasionally).

The other occasion was for a local SoCal university and the author was a friend of one of my daughter's. The letter was read at chapter during pre rush. It was brutal.

Not a "I heard from great Aunt Sallie's best friend Agnes' third cousin."

[Old_Row]

Who writes letters anymore?

[33girl]

Unless you were at membership selection for those chapters....you really don't know why the women were cut.

PERIOD.

Oh, and it appears that your friend isn't a very good mother if she raised a daughter that would waste her time doing something so malicious.

Not to mention you might want to take a second look at your own daughter's friends.

[ellebud]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Unless you were at membership selection for those chapters....you really don't know why the women were cut.

PERIOD.

Oh, and it appears that your friend isn't a very good mother if she raised a daughter that would waste her time doing something so malicious.

Not to mention you might want to take a second look at your own daughter's friends.

So...you demand to know how I know something....you don't like the answer because nastiness never happens in the world of teenagers or young women. (Let us return to the nastiness of Wary's daughter's recruitment...I went back to check on her name) so you respond with a nasty retort about my friends and my parenting.

I believe that regarding the former you might dissuade yourself that all the women involve in sororities are nice and Panhellenic. Regarding the latter, you owe me an apology.

[Greek_or_Geek?]

The hardest part of this story to believe is how the OP continues to say that there was no bad blood between her and the letter writer, the letter writer thought she was fun and hilarious and told others she was blah blah blah. Then out of the blue she writes this letter to the mystical all knowing power of Greek life. Something happened.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ellebud

So...you demand to know how I know something....you don't like the answer because nastiness never happens in the world of teenagers or young women. (Let us return to the nastiness of Wary's daughter's recruitment...I went back to check on her name) so you respond with a nasty retort about my friends and my parenting.

I believe that regarding the former you might dissuade yourself that all the women involve in sororities are nice and Panhellenic. Regarding the latter, you owe me an apology.

LOL. I'm sorry your daughter is friends with an immature witch who considers it fun to ruin someone else's college experience. I'm sorry your friend has a daughter who is an immature witch who considers it fun to ruin someone else's college experience.

I'm not saying "nastiness" never happens - just that UNLESS YOU ARE IN THE ROOM, AND SOMETIMES EVEN THEN, YOU DON'T KNOW WHY SOMEONE DIDN'T GET A BID. If your friend's witch daughter and your daughter's witch friend want to believe they did it all on their own, well, good for them. They can put it on their resumes.

And I looked up that Wary thread, and from what I remember, we were cautioning her to STFU so as not to ruin her daughter's rush. If it was horrible and mean of us to think of her daughter when she apparently felt it more important to spout out personal information and show us how "well informed" she was, well, I guess we're big old meanies then. Apparently there were creepy stalkers saying what the daughter was wearing and such, but I have a hard time believing they would have started piping up had Wary not been such a bia to begin with.

Buy the ticket, take the ride. Next.

[28StGreek]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Unless you were at membership selection for those chapters....you really don't know why the women were cut.

In a world where the CIA/FBI/Justice Department can't keep secrets, do you really believe that melodramatic, catty, and sometimes bitchy young women could keep something particularly scandalous a secret even under the auspices of chapter or membership selection?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 28StGreek

In a world where the CIA/FBI/Justice Department can't keep secrets, do you really believe that melodramatic, catty, and sometimes bitchy young women could keep something particularly scandalous a secret even under the auspices of chapter or membership selection?

No, but I believe that the average chapter member actually has no idea how invite lists are constructed.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

No, but I believe that the average chapter member actually has no idea how invite lists are constructed.

That must vary from school to school because I am certain the school where I advised the actives are well aware of this process.

I have certainly understood the initial reluctance to believe The OP's story, but after reading all of this, I do believe it. Even at a large SEC school rumors, trash talking, vengeance, etc takes place and the info spreads up and down the street. Heck, rush operates under the guise of hearsay - "i hear she wants to be a xyz, we shoukd release her" so this situation is very plausible.

Each chapter may have a different way to handle the negative PNM info they receive - possibly a written complaint is filed? Don't know. And, possibly in this case there is some kernel of truth in the letter. Don't know.

But, I , like Ellebud, do believe it can happen. With all of the craziness of rush - I believe anything can happen. I have seen some if it, and it isn't all sisterhood and sunshine.

And I agree with 28 stgreek. These girls TALK. The drama of voting sessions is often leaked.

[AlphaFrog]

The OP keeps talking about how the letter-writing roommate only knew her for 3 months. That seems like sufficent time to make a character judgement, especially since during rush you get less than a week or so. I don't get how writing a letter (to her own chapter) was so horrible, unless it was false information. I think the writer did her chapter a favor.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

That must vary from school to school because I am certain the school where I advised the actives are well aware of this process.

I have certainly understood the initial reluctance to believe The OP's story, but after reading all of this, I do believe it. Even at a large SEC school rumors, trash talking, vengeance, etc takes place and the info spreads up and down the street. Heck, rush operates under the guise of hearsay - "i hear she wants to be a xyz, we shoukd release her" so this situation is very plausible.

Each chapter may have a different way to handle the negative PNM info they receive - possibly a written complaint is filed? Don't know. And, possibly in this case there is some kernel of truth in the letter. Don't know.

But, I , like Ellebud, do believe it can happen. With all of the craziness of rush - I believe anything can happen. I have seen some if it, and it isn't all sisterhood and sunshine.

And I agree with 28 stgreek. These girls TALK. The drama of voting sessions is often leaked.

Okay, I think that maybe we are arguing apples and oranges. I think that IF THE OP DID SOMETHING HORRIBLE it makes sense that word got around and she was released from every chapter. I have a much harder time believing that the OP did not do something horrible and one woman's subjective opinion held sway in six chapters.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by ellebud

I am a friend of the mother of one of the girls who did this at a large greek system on the other side of the United States. There was bad blood between the daughter and this girl from high school. Despite her mother's asking to let it go the daughter read her letter to us. It was sent to all the houses, including her own. Daughter wanted it all "on the record". (And yes, we leave the west coast...occasionally).

This is insane. If we ever got a letter from someone who wasn't in our own chapter, accusing a PNM of bad behavior, true or not, I would think the letter-writer was a few sandwiches short of a picnic.