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Originally Posted by MysticCat
In my experience, it's not uncommon.
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I only know my own experience but my experience is based on having a family that doesn't believe in getting in the way. Therefore, we don't have to tell anyone to fuck off or ignore our preferences in favor of family requests.
I can't speak for the experiences of the couples whose weddings I have attended. People don't always tell the full story and we don't see behind the scenes. They may or may not have gone primarily with their own preferences. Even a lot of happy couples who are pleased with their wedding admit that they would have done a few things differently if they didn't have to consider the needs and desires of family members.
"It's your day and it's all about you -- do it the way
you want to" EXCEPT for the incidentals that happen in life. Some couples aren't able to work through this. Some of it is about backbone, some of it is about family dynamics, and some of it is wondering how many battles are worth fighting. Only going with your preferences definitely isn't common enough to be common sense based on what common sense really means--it isn't just something that ideally makes sense.
You aren't arguing with anyone.
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