UCF student needing some advice

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

@lucgreek

If you actually think I'm dumb enough to say any of this out loud to anyone, you're on the same level as FleurGirl. I thought that maybe if I came on this site, and was brutally honest I would actually get some help. Maybe get some questions answered in a mature way that I could never ask one of the brothers. Way to show just how nice and helpful the individuals in Greek Life are.

I was answering in a completely mature way, by being blunt. If you're going through rush to get "9's and 10's," a pair of letters isn't going to make that happen. You've stated really superficial reasons about going through rush that brothers WILL see through. You haven't even stated why you want to join a fraternity. It's also funny you're going by what you "hear" or "see," despite saying you know brothers in the groups. If these guys haven't approached you about rushing since you've met them, maybe they don't find you material for their group.

I'll be even more blunt. You're essentially a junior who will graduate next year. Which means if you pledge this spring, you have one year as an active. That is enough for most groups to say 'no thanks.'

Just FYI, there are members of groups at UCF who read these boards. It would be very easy to find out who you are based on your information.

[UCFalpha]

Originally Posted by lucgreek

I was answering in a completely mature way, by being blunt. If you're going through rush to get "9's and 10's," a pair of letters isn't going to make that happen. You've stated really superficial reasons about going through rush that brothers WILL see through. You haven't even stated why you want to join a fraternity. It's also funny you're going by what you "hear" or "see," despite saying you know brothers in the groups. If these guys haven't approached you about rushing since you've met them, maybe they don't find you material for their group.

I'll be even more blunt. You're essentially a junior who will graduate next year. Which means if you pledge this spring, you have one year as an active. That is enough for most groups to say 'no thanks.'

Just FYI, there are members of groups at UCF who read these boards. It would be very easy to find out who you are based on your information.

Thank you for this answer. I appreciate your bluntness and your professional answer. The reason I asked these superficial questions on here is because I would never ask them in person. I agree they are very shallow and silly, but they aren't things I would say without being anonymous.

The main reasons I want to rush is the relationships you build with the brothers, the networking you partake in general on campus, and the potential connections for the future. Since I am a business major, I believe it is extremely important to be involved in Greek life.

And yes the brothers of the fraternities I mention, as well as others, have asked me to rush every semester since I have been here. Most of the hearing and seeing has occurred first hand or from the brothers I know.

Thank you for the last part, I agree it would be best for me to remain anonymous for obvious reasons. However, I'm very private about my intentions so I would be surprised if anyone would be able to figure out who I am. I do see what you are saying, and I will be more careful.

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

And yes the brothers of the fraternities I mention, as well as others, have asked me to rush every semester since I have been here. Most of the hearing and seeing has occurred first hand or from the brothers I know.

Then you seem to have all the information you need. What's the point of asking here? We're all people on the internet. We don't know your campus better than you.

[UCFalpha]

Originally Posted by lucgreek

Then you seem to have all the information you need. What's the point of asking here? We're all people on the internet. We don't know your campus better than you.

Very true. However, for my future would a professional or social fraternity be better for getting potential jobs or internships?

[LaneSig]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

Very true. However, for my future would a professional or social fraternity be better for getting potential jobs or internships?

Where internships are concerned, it's more of your department major and advisor. They are the ones who can help you best with finding internships in your field.

[lucgreek]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

Very true. However, for my future would a professional or social fraternity be better for getting potential jobs or internships?

Networking gets you a job or internship. Any group will provide you with that. Being a Sigma Chi won't automatically get you a job over being in Alpha Kappa Psi. It's all situational. You're asking a question that doesn't have a straight answer.

[UCFalpha]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

Where internships are concerned, it's more of your department major and advisor. They are the ones who can help you best with finding internships in your field.

Originally Posted by lucgreek

Networking gets you a job or internship. Any group will provide you with that. Being a Sigma Chi won't automatically get you a job over being in Alpha Kappa Psi. It's all situational. You're asking a question that doesn't have a straight answer.

Thank you for both of your answers. Although I may not have a clear answer, you both have helped me a lot. I realize now that the I need to go with my gut decision.

I know networking is important, but you both have some very good points. I suppose the only reason I would go with a professional business fraternity would be for the potential business opportunites, not for the brotherhood and other reasons I listed.

When it comes down to it I guess I just wanted to know if AKPsi would provide me with far better opportunity for my future in business. If it is not an extreme difference, then I would definitely want to join a social fraternity, as the individuals involved are far more appealing to me.

Thank you again for your help! You both have been very helpful!

If a moderator wants to close or delete this thread now, please feel free to.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

Thank you for this answer. I appreciate your bluntness and your professional answer. The reason I asked these superficial questions on here is because I would never ask them in person. I agree they are very shallow and silly, but they aren't things I would say without being anonymous.

The main reasons I want to rush is the relationships you build with the brothers, the networking you partake in general on campus, and the potential connections for the future. Since I am a business major, I believe it is extremely important to be involved in Greek life.

And yes the brothers of the fraternities I mention, as well as others, have asked me to rush every semester since I have been here. Most of the hearing and seeing has occurred first hand or from the brothers I know.

Thank you for the last part, I agree it would be best for me to remain anonymous for obvious reasons. However, I'm very private about my intentions so I would be surprised if anyone would be able to figure out who I am. I do see what you are saying, and I will be more careful.

Why didn't you rush two years ago? Or last year? Remember, just because you are interested in THEM, doesn't mean that they will give you a bid. Or initiate you. In some cases, bid =/= initiation.

[BemoreLXA]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Why didn't you rush two years ago? Or last year? Remember, just because you are interested in THEM, doesn't mean that they will give you a bid. Or initiate you. In some cases, bid =/= initiation.

His tone makes it seem like they are interested in him and would give him a bid lol.

I may be very wrong here but it seems like you know people these organizations and they want you to join? You're not just picking 3 UCF frats you like

[ZTAngel]

Originally Posted by UCFalpha

Thank you for the last part, I agree it would be best for me to remain anonymous for obvious reasons. However, I'm very private about my intentions so I would be surprised if anyone would be able to figure out who I am. I do see what you are saying, and I will be more careful.

It's actually not that hard to figure it out. You've given more clues than you think. As a UCF alum, I can say with certainty that both fraternities and sororities (including my own) have cut potential members during rush because of things that were said on the internet. Yes, UCF Sigma Chi is a good chapter. Yes, girls like them. But the alumni I know from Sigma Chi were classy guys and would never want stuff on the internet about how they only "eff girls who are 9s and 10s." I doubt the current members of Sigma Chi would want such a misogynist statement out there either.