Hi! (transfer school, sorority chapter at new school?)

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by RedRoseM.D.

I'll start with ree-xi:
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I linked to this thread and was about to log off until I noticed how you and Barbie's rush skewered this girl re: her situation. Even if she is not telling the 'whole story' about her situation, Barbie's Rush, your responses were vapid at best but mostly cruel. It's a shame that that grown women would make such comments to a collegiate.
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I merely called out Barbie's rush for her cruel comments and now ree-xi.

Telling me to butt out is pretty consistent with the rest of your comments, Barbie's rush. This is an open forum and I hate to see people talking down to collegiate members or pnm's.

I just re-read my posts to the OP. I didn't skewer the OP, nor was I cruel. I never talked down to her. I'd ask you for evidence but of course, there is none.

I actually have a big heart and am very sensitive. However, I am direct and ask questions. People mistake directness as rude, and get defensive when questions are asked.

I ask direct questions so as to remove the emotional element from the situation and get to the business of the matter so that I can:
A. offer a perspective that the person may not see, or
B. offer suggestions as to how to resolve the situation (whether that be seeking help elsewhere, or moving on).

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I actually have a big heart and am very sensitive. However, I am direct and ask questions. People mistake directness as rude, and get defensive when questions are asked.

I ask direct questions so as to remove the emotional element from the situation and get to the business of the matter so that I can:
A. offer a perspective that the person may not see, or
B. offer suggestions as to how to resolve the situation (whether that be seeking help elsewhere, or moving on).

I knew there was something about you, ree-Xi. That's me too, and I get into "trouble" because I'm so direct. I've had to really work with the chapter that I advise to train them and reassure them that I am NOT mad. I am analytical and a thinker, not a "feeler" (despite being sensitive) and I'm asking questions not because they are in trouble or did anything wrong. My job is to solve problems quickly, not talk them to death.

Sometimes confidence (which I have a good amount of, always have, since I was a preschooler, I'm told) gets mistaken for something else. I'm still learning the fine arts of diplomacy and tact and how to "finesse" things. I'm a work in progress, what can I say?

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

I knew there was something about you, ree-Xi. That's me too, and I get into "trouble" because I'm so direct. I've had to really work with the chapter that I advise to train them and reassure them that I am NOT mad. I am analytical and a thinker, not a "feeler" (despite being sensitive) and I'm asking questions not because they are in trouble or did anything wrong. My job is to solve problems quickly, not talk them to death.

Sometimes confidence (which I have a good amount of, always have, since I was a preschooler, I'm told) gets mistaken for something else. I'm still learning the fine arts of diplomacy and tact and how to "finesse" things. I'm a work in progress, what can I say?

LOL, the directness probably is a result of my education and experience in Journalism. It's directly contrary to my inborn tendency to react emotionally first (ask my family, they'll say I'm a drama queen). I honestly had to work at learning to think analytically, and when to use which side of my brain.

I really think that the situation that the OP sucks, but emotions aren't going to bring her to a solution. And by solution I don't necessarily mean "what she wants". I do hope that she finds peace in whatever does happen. The flip side of the sucky part is that she is part of a wonderful national organization for life - if she chooses to be.

[AlphaFrog]

Is it just me, or has the irony factor on GC skyrocketed recently (and not just because of my parody thread)?

[Lafayette79]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

The flip side of the sucky part is that she is part of a wonderful national organization for life - if she chooses to be.

Of all the comments on this thread, this is the one that I like most.