Hi! (transfer school, sorority chapter at new school?)

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

QFP.

And just wow -- logging on just to tell someone else you think she's rude, all the while offering criticisms of another sorority, it chapters and its members. Talk about disrespectful. As you say: Not in good character at all.

Originally Posted by RedRoseM.D.

Hi everyone,

I am new to greekchat. I'm an AOII alum who is a pediatrician.

>> What does having to be a pediatrician have to do with anything?

I just linked to this thread from another thread and as I was reading over it, I was shocked at some of the cutting comments on here. Especially Barbie's Rush. If I am breaking the rules of greekchat, then pardon me, but Barbie's Rush should be ashamed for posting such crude and rude replies to mary 1510. I logged on just to offer my some sympathy and support to mary1510.

>> Which thread brought you to this one? It's quite rare that a "new member" of GC "logs in" to quickly find other threads which have some controversy, and bash others. It's suspect because you seem very familiar for a newbie (not familiar to a particular poster, but in your comfort talking to others here) in your bashing a regular user based on a single thread (since you're so new).

She stated that she was a Zeta at UT, not UT San Antonio and she stated several times that she did not go to her first university with intentions of transferring to another university. In fact, she stated that she transferred to be closer to home because her mother has breast cancer. And now, the Zeta chapter there has decided not to allow her to affiliate, which, understandably, must be extremely upsetting on it's own, especially given that her roommate was allowed to affiliate and that she has a family crisis.

>> Yes, we can read.

Being an adviser for my own sorority and being familiar with recruitment and affiliation at a large school, I am deeply sorry Mary, sorry that Zeta would not allow you to affiliate, even on a probationary basis, and sorry that your mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer. My understanding is that transfers do not count in chapter total, so the chapter's reason for not allowing you to affiliate is really perplexing to me.

>> If you don't belong to the chapter, you really have no place to say why she wasn't invited to affiliate. We can all guess, but not know.Look at it this way, if they did not allow you to affiliate, then you may not have felt comfortable with a group of girls who would take that kind of action against an initiated sister. Since we know it likely isn't a numbers issue and since they declined to offer you even a probationary period, I think it's safe to say that they didn't offer you your deserved level of respect as an initiated sister.

>> You. Don't. Know. That.

And as far as you transferring to a school where you have no reminders of Zeta, sounds like a smart thing. You can then move on from this and focus on college and making new friends outside of Zeta. Then, perhaps you will be able to overlook this and get back involved with Zeta in your alum years. Just know that there are nice women in every chapter and you are likely to meet some of those should you decide to get involved with a Zeta alum chapter after college. And perhaps if you do run into some of the those who rejected you, they will then be mature enough to give you some respect.

I know the issue about transferring to another school to affiliate with a desired chapter.

>> Interested that you "know" that this chapter is "desired"
I know that is annoying to some people. But that doesn't sound like it's the case here, and regardless, all chapters of a sorority should offer mutual respect and support to sisters. It's disappointing to see someone log on here for support and see someone else, who is likely an npc member herself, cut her down. Not in good character at all.

I wish you the best.

>> No one cut her down. We offered her what we think might have happened. The only people that know are not on this forum.


Quote: Originally Posted by mary1510
I did not even know that once you have been rejected into a chapter that you could no longer affiliate with any chapter anywhere. What is the reasoning behind this? Is this only the case with Zeta Tau Alpha? just curious.

Again, why would it matter if you're not planning on affiliating? Why don't you check with Zeta instead of embarrassing yourself on a public message board where there are girls who go to your school?

Quote: Originally Posted by mary1510 UT Austin. Of course you did.

>> No one told her that she could never affiliate with another chapter of ZTA. People told her to talk to the people who WOULD know, instead of the OP coming here to bash her sorority.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

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>> No one told her that she could never affiliate with another chapter of ZTA. People told her to talk to the people who WOULD know, instead of the OP coming here to bash her sorority.

Just pointing out that this last part was a quote from Barbie. I don't disagree with you on any of your points.

Mary, contact your HQ if you have any questions. They will have more appropriate answers for your than GC.