Hi! (transfer school, sorority chapter at new school?)

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by RedRoseM.D.

I politely introduced myself, letting the people in the forum know what I do for a living and that I am an adviser. The fact that I stated that I am a pediatrician was not meant as on offense to anyone and I'm not quite sure why it would be taken as such?

No one took it as an offense. They took it as gratuitous and irrelevant to this discussion.

FSUZeta: I read back over my messages and I did not in any way put down or talk negatively about Zeta, period.

Oh really?

Originally Posted by RedRoseM.D.

Being an adviser for my own sorority and being familiar with recruitment and affiliation at a large school, I am deeply sorry Mary, sorry that Zeta would not allow you to affiliate, even on a probationary basis . . . . My understanding is that transfers do not count in chapter total, so the chapter's reason for not allowing you to affiliate is really perplexing to me.

In other words, you don't know anything about this situation other than what you've read in this thread, but you're perplexed enough to make judgments about how a chapter of sorority of which you're not a member does its business. (Do you even know whether acceptance on a probationary basis was an option for the chapter? It wouldn't be in my organization.)

Look at it this way, if they did not allow you to affiliate, then you may not have felt comfortable with a group of girls who would take that kind of action against an initiated sister. Since we know it likely isn't a numbers issue and since they declined to offer you even a probationary period, I think it's safe to say that they didn't offer you your deserved level of respect as an initiated sister.

So according to you and based on your very limited information, it's "safe" to say that the sisters in this chapter didn't give her a chance or show her respect and are the kind of people she's better off without. There's really no other reasonable explanation. Really?

And perhaps if you do run into some of the those who rejected you, they will then be mature enough to give you some respect.

Because apparently they were too immature to give her respect now?

I know the issue about transferring to another school to affiliate with a desired chapter. I know that is annoying to some people. But that doesn't sound like it's the case here, and regardless, all chapters of a sorority should offer mutual respect and support to sisters.

And obviously the chapter in question here did not offer mutual respect and support to a sister. Nevermind that they followed the proper protocol for their own sorority.

You really don't see how these were very judgmental statements? You really don't think you put anyone in that chapter down, or see why anyone would think you were speaking negatively about Zeta and this particular chapter?

If you really hate to see people talking down to others, then perhaps you should stop doing it.