Are there any relationship experts here? Very serious question. Help.

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by Dwight

Please don't tease me. She's happy with our relationship, she's just not happy with my performance in bed. I'm asking to see if anyone else has had this experience? Have you experienced this? Your thoughts without being disrespectful would be appreciated.

Sorry bud, but you're in the wrong place for that type of advice. People are going to tease you. If you've been viewing these boards for a while you should know what kind of a response posts like this recieve...

[33girl]

OK, I'm assuming you perform oral sex on her regularly and for a long time, correct? You've honed your technique to what she likes, correct? If you have done both those things, and she's still complaining...

Some people can have relationships that are great everywhere else, but just aren't compatible in bed. It has nothing to do with being "good" or "bad" or time or circumference or length or any of that stuff.

It's also something you cannot force. Sometimes two people just do not fit.

You guys would probably be fine if you were 80, but when you're in your 20s sex is a big part of a relationship for most people. I know this isn't the answer you want, but unless you'd be OK with her seeking sex outside of your relationship, you should probably end it now.

(I sound like Dan Savage in this post.)

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by 33girl

(I sound like Dan Savage in this post.)

I love Dan Savage. OP should just listen to his podcasts. All of them.

[AZTheta]

Dwight,

You lost your badge.

And you have relationship problems for which you are seeking advice from anonymous strangers on the Internet.

There is a pattern here.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

Dwight,

You lost your badge.

And you have relationship problems for which you are seeking advice from anonymous strangers on the Internet.

There is a pattern here.

hahahaha

this post made me laugh

[Dwight]

Originally Posted by 33girl

OK, I'm assuming you perform oral sex on her regularly and for a long time, correct? You've honed your technique to what she likes, correct? If you have done both those things, and she's still complaining...

Some people can have relationships that are great everywhere else, but just aren't compatible in bed. It has nothing to do with being "good" or "bad" or time or circumference or length or any of that stuff.

It's also something you cannot force. Sometimes two people just do not fit.

You guys would probably be fine if you were 80, but when you're in your 20s sex is a big part of a relationship for most people. I know this isn't the answer you want, but unless you'd be OK with her seeking sex outside of your relationship, you should probably end it now.

(I sound like Dan Savage in this post.)

I had to stop giving her oral sex. I never told her and I feel bad, but I can't take the stinch in that area. Whenever I would have oral sex with her, I would have to turn away periodically as I was doing it because of the smell.

I don't want to break it off, because I really love her. I wish there was a way to fix this. Thanks a lot for the advice. I think you have a point.

[preciousjeni]

*slowly backs out of thread*

[excelblue]

Ahahahahahaha! ROFL...

Seriously though, there are professional sex counselors available. They're usually for married couples, but if you're comfortable enough talking it out with her, you might want to seek out one of those with her. It might just fix up everything.

[honeychile]

Seriously, see a sex therapist or, if you're religious, a premarital counselor. Whatever you do, don't ask my exhusband!

[dreamseeker]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

*slowly backs out of thread*

i'm leaving with you but coming back to peek...lol.

[Dwight]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Seriously, see a sex therapist or, if you're religious, a premarital counselor. Whatever you do, don't ask my exhusband!

So your exhusband has the same problem I have? Is that why you divorced him? We tried again tonight, and I did it again. I even tried masturbating before to see if that would make a difference, but it didn't. We actually timed it this time. It was 54 seconds, and I did the same thing. My body starts to gyrate, my eyes roll in the back of my head, my toes point and then I make the same moaning sound I always make at the end that she says annoys her for some reason, and then it's over. I see why we never have any pillow talk. When I masturbate, I can go for about 15 minutes, it's just when I'm having sex with her, that I'm done so fast. Though I wish I could, I can't help it.

[Dwight]

Originally Posted by excelblue

Ahahahahahaha! ROFL...

Seriously though, there are professional sex counselors available. They're usually for married couples, but if you're comfortable enough talking it out with her, you might want to seek out one of those with her. It might just fix up everything.

I don't see the humor in this, but I did go to a counselor. She told me to try to either masturbate before, or think of other things.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Dwight

I don't see the humor in this, but I did go to a counselor. She told me to try to either masturbate before, or think of other things.

Whatever, you must be trollin.

Go back to your counselor and stop asking us.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Dwight

I had to stop giving her oral sex. I never told her and I feel bad, but I can't take the stinch in that area. Whenever I would have oral sex with her, I would have to turn away periodically as I was doing it because of the smell.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Dwight

I had to stop giving her oral sex.

Once again, I put on my Dan Savage hat and say this particular thing is not an "option." It's STANDARD. It is not a GPS, it is the braking system. This generation, I tell you...

If you won't do that and she wants you to, she's absolutely right to dump your ass.