Are there any relationship experts here? Very serious question. Help.
 

Hi, my name is Dwight and I've been viewing Greek Chat for a few months, now. During those months, I noticed all the professional people on here as I was reading posts. Hopfully, there's someone or maybe many here that can help me. I'm very serious because I think my girlfriend is ready to leave me. Please don't make fun of me.

Everything is good between the two of us except for when we have sex. We've been together for a little over a year, and she's just now telling me that my performance in bed is really poor. I was very hurt by that when she told me, but I was also glad she was upfront and honest with me. She kind of hinted to it about 6 months ago. Whenever I would ask her how I was she would just smile but never really give me a direct answer. I asked her what is was that I needed to work on, and she told me that I need to go longer. I try, but I can't help it. Two to three minutes and then it's over. According to her, it's about 30 to 45 seconds, but I know that's not true always. That's only when we haven't done it in a few days. I'm only 22 and I've even tried viagra, but I don't like using it because I stay erect for so long and it begins to hurt. I love having sex with her, but I don't like the after effect, because she doesn't say anything and even during sex, she just lays there. Then when I'm done she rubs my back and pats me on it as if to say get up, you're horrible. It seems like she just wants me to finish. I really love her but I'm afraid she's going to leave me. Has anyone else experienced this? Can someone please help me? I don't want to lose her.

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She's just not happy with you.

And I'll QFP just in case.

QFP'd

Please don't tease me. She's happy with our relationship, she's just not happy with my performance in bed. I'm asking to see if anyone else has had this experience? Have you experienced this? Your thoughts without being disrespectful would be appreciated.

Sorry bud, but you're in the wrong place for that type of advice. People are going to tease you. If you've been viewing these boards for a while you should know what kind of a response posts like this recieve...

OK, I'm assuming you perform oral sex on her regularly and for a long time, correct? You've honed your technique to what she likes, correct? If you have done both those things, and she's still complaining...

Some people can have relationships that are great everywhere else, but just aren't compatible in bed. It has nothing to do with being "good" or "bad" or time or circumference or length or any of that stuff.

It's also something you cannot force. Sometimes two people just do not fit.

You guys would probably be fine if you were 80, but when you're in your 20s sex is a big part of a relationship for most people. I know this isn't the answer you want, but unless you'd be OK with her seeking sex outside of your relationship, you should probably end it now.

(I sound like Dan Savage in this post.)

I love Dan Savage. OP should just listen to his podcasts. All of them.

Dwight,

You lost your badge.

And you have relationship problems for which you are seeking advice from anonymous strangers on the Internet.

There is a pattern here.

hahahaha

this post made me laugh

I had to stop giving her oral sex. I never told her and I feel bad, but I can't take the stinch in that area. Whenever I would have oral sex with her, I would have to turn away periodically as I was doing it because of the smell.

I don't want to break it off, because I really love her. I wish there was a way to fix this. Thanks a lot for the advice. I think you have a point.

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*slowly backs out of thread*

Ahahahahahaha! ROFL...

Seriously though, there are professional sex counselors available. They're usually for married couples, but if you're comfortable enough talking it out with her, you might want to seek out one of those with her. It might just fix up everything.

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Seriously, see a sex therapist or, if you're religious, a premarital counselor. Whatever you do, don't ask my exhusband!

i'm leaving with you but coming back to peek...lol.