How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[SWTXBelle]

I guess I'm lucky - my youngest will be going through recruitment in a year, but at a campus which doesn't have my sorority. It doesn't have her paternal grandmother's (Pi Phi), but it does have Chi Omega, her step-grandmother's. I really, really just want her to pledge any of the fine groups on the campus. My only inclination towards Chi Omega is because I would love for my mother-in-law's beautiful 70 year old badge to be worn! Honestly, I am so active in my alumnae panhellenic that I will welcome the opportunity to share sorority membership with her with ANY group.

[exlurker]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I guess I'm lucky - my youngest will be going through recruitment in a year, but at a campus which doesn't have my sorority. It doesn't have her paternal grandmother's (Pi Phi), but it does have Chi Omega, her step-grandmother's. I really, really just want her to pledge any of the fine groups on the campus. My only inclination towards Chi Omega is because I would love for my mother-in-law's beautiful 70 year old badge to be worn! Honestly, I am so active in my alumnae panhellenic that I will welcome the opportunity to share sorority membership with her with ANY group.

SWTXBelle, you have a great outlook, I think. As you most likely know, though, Chi Omega doesn't consider the grandmother - granddaughter relationship as being a "legacy" situation. (Chi O isn't alone in this; it's my understanding that at least one other NPC group now says that legacies are daughters or sisters -- not granddaughters or great-granddaughters, etc.)

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I'm so lucky my mom was sane and mature and even though I was the one to rank her chapter lower than Sigma Kappa, she never would have THOUGHT about taking it out on me, my happiness, my new chapter or the collegiate chapter of her sorority.

It seems that (with many alumnae) it's often acceptable for their daughter to release the chapter, but not for the chapter to release their daughter.

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

I would have loved for her to pledge any of the Sororities.

Did she withdraw from recruitment?

[Happy Mom]

Originally Posted by lyrelyre

Did she withdraw from recruitment?

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

My heart hurts for you and your daughter. It sounds to me that the other sororities who were interested in her thought it was a "done deal" that she would go ADPi. If she's sincerely interested in Greek Life, I hope she gives it another try and is successful. She's already WAL with a mother like you!

[FleurGirl]

Originally Posted by Happy Mom

No she was "released" the morning of Pref Day. She was asked back to several houses and kept her options open but was cut.

I may be way off base, but maybe recieving 20-30 letters of rec kind of put the chapter off... I mean 3, or 4, or even 5 might be reasonable, but if I were reading through 30 recs for one girl, I'd be pretty annoyed, and maybe even think she had some kind of an attitude... regardless of whether or not that's true. Who knows though, it could've been anything. I hope she'll consider re-rushing in the future, and I'm glad to hear she's been doing other things and still having a good college experience.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by exlurker

SWTXBelle, you have a great outlook, I think. As you most likely know, though, Chi Omega doesn't consider the grandmother - granddaughter relationship as being a "legacy" situation. (Chi O isn't alone in this; it's my understanding that at least one other NPC group now says that legacies are daughters or sisters -- not granddaughters or great-granddaughters, etc.)

Oh, I know. And since her grandmother is deceased, it's rather a moot point in terms of recs (although I do expect to get a good Chi O rec from the Chi O daughter of my mil's best friend and Chi O sister!) It would simply be special for the badge to continue on in the family.