Daughter's friend's recruitment

[RebelCheerBabii]

im kinda confused about this whole rush thing now......what did that girl do that was wrong??? i thought rush was about finding the right house where u belong which is waht she was doing right? is there somthing im missing? if someone gets a bid froma house they dont like, are they supposed to join??? im gonna rush in the fall but im scared i wont be able to find the right house and join the wrong one instead!!! how arre u suposed to know whats right for u??????

[myopicsunflower]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

im kinda confused about this whole rush thing now......what did that girl do that was wrong??? i thought rush was about finding the right house where u belong which is waht she was doing right? is there somthing im missing? if someone gets a bid froma house they dont like, are they supposed to join??? im gonna rush in the fall but im scared i wont be able to find the right house and join the wrong one instead!!! how arre u suposed to know whats right for u??????

Basically, she burned her bridges. This girl has done plenty to draw negative attention to herself, and word gets around a Greek community pretty quickly.

Think of it this way -- if you were an XYZ, and you knew that this girl had been openly rude to girls in her legacy chapter, had pledged and depledged a another chapter, and turned down an informal Pref invitation to yet another chapter because she felt they weren't good enough for her, would you want her to be your sister? Would you extend her a bid?

I can't tell you how you know what's right for you -- in my experience, you just *know*. But this thread contains a whole lot of What Not To Do, and I think it would be wise reading for any girl going through rush.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by RebelCheerBabii

im kinda confused about this whole rush thing now......what did that girl do that was wrong??? i thought rush was about finding the right house where u belong which is waht she was doing right? is there somthing im missing? if someone gets a bid froma house they dont like, are they supposed to join??? im gonna rush in the fall but im scared i wont be able to find the right house and join the wrong one instead!!! how arre u suposed to know whats right for u??????

What she did wrong was act too good for every group on campus. Trust me...there is NO WAY she could have seriously looked at each of these chapters seriously and not found women in them with whom she could be friends. Recruitment is MUTUAL selection. The chapter that she has decided is for her already decided that she was NOT for them. It is then her fault for not giving other chapters a chance to join their sisterhoods. She'll never get a bid to the most desirable group on campus after first being released by them, being rude to multiple groups on campus, pledging another group and them dropping them because they served crackers for dinner. It doesn't work that way!