Room for Individual Growth?

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Originally Posted by FunGirl123

I guess the problem I am having right now is that your sisters should accept you, no matter what.

Originally Posted by FunGirl123

But I feel like being with your sisters in your chapter room at meeting is entirely different.

Your sisters DO accept you no matter what. But they're trying to prepare you for that beast of a place after college know as "The Real World".

Chapter is NOT an informal setting. It's a meeting; consequently, you should be in an appropriate, professional mood. What sets off a professional mood better than professional attire?

If you can't wear sweatpants to Grey's Anatomy nights, I could see complaining. However, your dress codes are for situations where you are either (1) expected to act professional or (2) representing your group (such as those fraternity parties). Do you also complain about recruitment dress codes?

When Greeks at my school b*** and moan about how there are so many rules and how we have to act appropriately always and represent our organization, do you know what we're told by our Greek advisors?

Tough, because by accepting that pin with those letters, you are accepting being held to a higher standard than an average college student. You are held to a higher GPA, more community service hours, and overall, to be a more responsible human being.

That's what your sisters are for: to hold you to a higher standard. Not an impossible standard (no one deserves that), but a HIGHER standard. The purpose of any sorority is to make women into better women and that's what your sisters are doing.

If you can't live with that, I would suggest leaving. Because no one is going to tell your chapter (not nationals, not Greek advisors, not even your parents) to lower their standards. They're trying to create upstanding ladies.

I'm almost done with college and I'm at the point in life where I'm doing all sorts of interviews and pre-professional things. I am SO glad my chapter has held me to such a high standard. I know how to dress for interviews. I know how to hold myself and how to act around others. I know how to make a darn good first impression. That's the benefit to being held to that high standard.

Originally Posted by FunGirl123

This has been blown entirely out of proportion.

Also, from the title of this thread, it appears you've blown the situation out of proportion. They aren't stifling your individual growth... they're helping you out in the long run.