Room for Individual Growth?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by FunGirl123

For the first time this year, I am regretting being a part of the greek system. I recently feel like I am not allowed to grow as an individual. Just the little things of being told what to wear, what to do, and being careful of not giving your sorority a bad name have been making me very doubful of this whole thing. We should all be accepted no matter what.

Why is it sooo important that we must act our best at a frat party, or that we must dress well to meeting (because sometimes, after a long day of classes, i dont have time to fully dress-up for meeting, esp when i live off campus). Whatever happened to intellectual freedom? Whatever happened to accepting your sister for who she is?

What does intellectual freedom have to do dress requirements or being expected to act with some maturity? (Hint: the answer is nothing.)

You say that you feel like you're "not allowed to grow as an individual," but frankly it sounds more like you don't really want to grow. You'd rather just have fun. Growing as an individual would mean getting ready now for the real world after college, when there are times (which, depending on your job, could be everyday) that you have to dress appropriately, whether you feel like it or not.

You dress nicely for meetings (1) as an indication of respect and (2) because believe it or not, how people are dressed really does affect how they conduct themselves. You act appropriately at parties because your sisters have a reasonable expectation not to be embarrassed by their association with you.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

What does intellectual freedom have to do dress requirements or being expected to act with some maturity? (Hint: the answer is nothing.)

You say that you feel like you're "not allowed to grow as an individual," but frankly it sounds more like you don't really want to grow. You'd rather just have fun. Growing as an individual would mean getting ready now for the real world after college, when there are times (which, depending on your job, could be everyday) that you have to dress appropriately, whether you feel like it or not.

You dress nicely for meetings (1) as an indication of respect and (2) because believe it or not, how people are dressed really does affect how they conduct themselves. You act appropriately at parties because your sisters have a reasonable expectation not to be embarrassed by their association with you.

I'd be very upset if I wanted to get a chapter subscription to the New York Times to read the morning after I got wasted and danced on tables, and my sisters required everyone to only read USAToday. What if the sister in charge of the bookclub is just as controlling about what fiction we can read, as she is about appropriate badge attire? If I suggest Catcher in the Rye or Lady Chatterly's Lover, even The Color Purple they'll say NO, and tell me to change out of my low rise pants because my midriff was showing while I had my badge on. I mean what if I wanted to get my letters on the front of some panties or wear them in a wet t-shirt concert during break? Oh and you should see the test files for the chapter, we're not allowed to pursue any hard majors since it a) can mess up our GPA and b) studying interferes with partying, so there isn't anything for my major and classes, so I guess I have to change my major to fit into my sorority.

I'm grown and I do what I want!