how do sororities decide?

[TriDeltaSallie]

I know it seems like it would be completely arbitrary, but it really does work. Maybe not perfectly every single time, but it works very well far more often than it doesn't. As others have said, each sorority has its own way of doing things, but those "ways" have worked for years and have been refined as necessary.

Trusting your sisters is large part of sorority membership in many ways and this especially holds true with recruitment. But believe me - it can be just as emotionally difficult on the other side as it is as a PNM. Most sorority women take membership recruitment and the extending of bids very seriously. There are plenty of tears on the other side as well. This includes women who are crushed when someone they love doesn't come back for whatever reason.

Did you go to your pref party? I'm assuming you didn't accept a bid if you did?

[swtlilsoni]

Thanks for the reply
I understand why it would be difficult on both sides, and I'm sure their technique of deciding (whatever it is) works.
And if its really that private then its okay I'm not expecting any answers ..
Can I at least know if talking to more sisters during the party helps your chances at getting invited back?

No I didn't go to my pref party because I'm pretty sure I dont want to accept a bid for the chapter that called me back =\

[kddani]

Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

No I didn't go to my pref party because I'm pretty sure I dont want to accept a bid for the chapter that called me back =\

That chapter gave you a chance. They're the only ones that gave you a chance. Too bad you didn't give them one.

[ZTA72]

Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

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Can I at least know if talking to more sisters during the party helps your chances at getting invited back?

You are asking a question that no one (REALLY) has an answer. There really is no way to know. My best advice is to relax, try COB, if that's what you want, and hope for the best.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

Can I at least know if talking to more sisters during the party helps your chances at getting invited back?

I think it depends on a whole slew of other issues. A PNM could talk to 10 sisters and if none of them believe she is a good fit for the chapter, it isn't going to help her. On the other hand, a PNM could talk to only two and end up a sister.

As someone said above, it is a mutual selection process. There are so many nuances to it (on both sides) that it is hard to tell someone "this is why this happened and if you had only met more people you would have made it". There is no way to know this.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by swtlilsoni

Thanks for the reply
I understand why it would be difficult on both sides, and I'm sure their technique of deciding (whatever it is) works.
And if its really that private then its okay I'm not expecting any answers ..
Can I at least know if talking to more sisters during the party helps your chances at getting invited back?

No I didn't go to my pref party because I'm pretty sure I dont want to accept a bid for the chapter that called me back =\

Another QFP





Sorry you had a sore foot. But that's a pretty lame excuse. Your Rho Chis could have helped you make the proper arrangements. I'm sure you didn't stay in your dorm room and not leave it for a week.

A hardship is a sick parent, a mid term, etc. Boy was I surprised to read that it was a sore foot.