Disappointed mom

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Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

Very few of my people from my hometown high school left the state for school. It's unfortunate, but it's true. (to your first question)

Furthermore, if you do go out of state then your social standing doesn't really matter...you know? You're sort of that lost child. But if you stay in state, you could climb socially.

Thanks for the insight. I guess it's one of those regional things. Most of the people I know from college seriously couldn't wait to leave here for a larger metro area (Chicago/NYC/etc).

Originally Posted by Elephant Walk

I understand where she's coming from. She feels like she raised an upstanding woman...if her daughter didn't make it into a top-tiered sorority, she feels like she failed raising her properly. It comes back on the mom. It's like raising a serial killer, you feel like you failed as parents. Sorority rush is the litmus test of proper raising.

Wow. Another serious question: So whether you've failed as a parent is determined solely based on recruitment?

Lets say that Daughter joins a "lower tier" chapter in college, however she ends up going to a top law school and ends up working for one of the top law firms in NYC (or something equally lucrative). Does a mother STILL feel she failed at raising her? If so, that is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

I have a really hard time wrapping my mind around the whole sorority = LIFE concept, and the fact that women in some areas of the South base their entire lives on the sorority they join in college.