LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes

[rbm]

I just wanted to add my little bit. On the topic that started the post, I have a friend who has done this exact thing- and I haven't disowned her yet. Why? Because we have a mutual understanding that we view sex differently which I think is what this whole thing boils down to. She has her sexcapades and I disagree with them but that doesn't change the fact that she is my homie. Besides, discretion is the name of her game. Everyone involved knows that talking can bring a good thing to an end. Just because she likes to do the do doesn't make her any less of a good person. The guys aren't saints and their behavior can't be passed off as boys beings boys because they're just as dirty as she supposedly is if not more considering they have alot of this ocurring daily.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but at the end of the day it boils down to minding ur own darn business. Every promiscuous girl is not that way bc she's lost or wants attention. Believe it or not some girls like sex with no strings attached too-it's not only ok for the "men to "experiment" or "test the waters." If you don't like what someone is doing-don't concern urself with it. If it is forced upon u, let it be known that you're not interested-whether it be someone's sex life, probs with parents, class, what color shirt they're wearing to a party. It's life-and people are different. You don't like what someone is doing, show them how you feel by doing what you feel is right. Other than that-live ur life. Do you. Don't be concerned with the girl going through a row of frat brothers because if she feels it's wrong, she will deal with herself later.
In my opinion it looks worse for the frat bros bc people often associate them with their org. How about telling them to cut it out or slow it down? But people don't like to do that. Blame it on the woman..oh boy.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by rbm

In my opinion it looks worse for the frat bros bc people often associate them with their org. How about telling them to cut it out or slow it down? But people don't like to do that. Blame it on the woman..oh boy.

It does look bad for frat brothers to sleep with the same woman. I don't see how someone would over look that or try to point the blame on the female or try to ruin her character. They are in the same boat as far as morals go. Also, a lot of times people think that a woman is going through a whole fraternity and that might not even be the case. She might have just talked to one or two of them and some of the other Frat brother's might have approached her unknowingly. Especially if the woman is attractive, she might get approached by many men on the campus but that doesn't mean that she is running through a fraternity of guys. Anyway, the fraternity members need to just set some guidelines or standards in the way they conduct themselves. They should have an unspoken rule not to talk to a woman that another frat member has talked to. That way they don't have to ever worry about ruining a woman's character or theirs. There is definitely a double standard thing going on here. If you are sleeping with someone that isn't your husband/wife that is far too many. That applies to everyone: Male and Female. There's no difference!

[PrettyBoy]

I read through these new posts. As far as fraternity brothers discussing with each other who they've screwed or how many jokers in the fraternity she's screwed, rather they're having formal meetings about the garbage or whatever....blah blah blah. To me that's just pointless discussions. Fraternity member, regular joker, gdi joker, or whatever, as long as a man or woman sleeps with more than one person at a time without a monogomous relationship and refuses to stay with one person, is a skank. Man or woman. It doesn't matter.

I wouldn't even get into a pointless azz discussion with a Nupe, Alpha, Que, Sigma, Iota, gdi or or whoever, who can't keep his d*** in his pants. And I damn sure wouldn't associate myself with a whoremongering, no good, skank azz woman who can't keep her legs closed.

To me, jokers like this are all skank snakes who don't love or respect themselves. Period.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I read through these new posts. As far as fraternity brothers discussing with each other who they've screwed or how many jokers in the fraternity she's screwed, rather they're having formal meetings about the garbage or whatever....blah blah blah. To me that's just pointless discussions. Fraternity member, regular joker, gdi joker, or whatever, as long as a man or woman sleeps with more than one person at a time without a monogomous relationship and refuses to stay with one person, is a skank. Man or woman. It doesn't matter.

I wouldn't even get into a pointless azz discussion with a Nupe, Alpha, Que, Sigma, Iota, gdi or or whoever, who can't keep his d*** in his pants. And I damn sure wouldn't associate myself with a whoremongering, no good, skank azz woman who can't keep her legs closed.

To me, jokers like this are all skank snakes who don't love or respect themselves. Period.

I don't know if you were replying to my post or just talking in general. Anyway, I wasn't meaning that men should discuss personal things as who they have slept with. For one thing, that is very personal and shouldn't be discussed with anyone. When you become grown that is your personal business and shouldn't be broadcast to anyone. What I was meaning with Fraternity members, is that they shouldn't go and talk to a woman that another frat brother talked to or dated. They don't have to know if the frat brother slept with the woman or not. All they need to know is another frat member was interested in her and dated her, and there should be a boundary that they shouldn't cross! That right there will keep things under wrap and prevent a bunch of mess.

Also, by reading your statements above you shouldn't be so judgmental. Everyone has a past and there is not one thing that God can't forgive people for. If you have ever slept with someone outside of marriage, you are a whoremonger according to God's word. There is no big or little sin, and you are no different from the people that are very sexual promiscuous. Anyway, I'm not trying to offend. I'm just given a different perspective from a biblical standpoint.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

Also, by reading your statements above you shouldn't be so judgmental. Everyone has a past and there is not one thing that God can't forgive people for. If you have ever slept with someone outside of marriage, you are a whoremonger according to God's word. There is no big or little sin, and you are no different from the people that are very sexual promiscuous. Anyway, I'm not trying to offend. I'm just given a different perspective from a biblical standpoint.

I didn't take offense to your post. I agree with it. smc112 there are certain people we like to be around and certain people we don't like to be around. That's not being judgemental to me. I don't like being around people like that. When I said whoremonger, in my eyes I'm talking about the opposite. I'm talking about courtship. I'm talking about when you begin to date ONE person exclusively, frequently, and with the purpose of determining if this is the person with whom you truly want to spend the rest of your life. This thread, or most of the posts that I've read on here are about people sleeping around. Yes, I agree with you 100%. Anyone who engages in sex outside of marriage is violating God's law. I'm not judging, because that's not my place to do so, but IMO it's a form of some type of disfunctional behavior when people start having sexual relatations with multiple people. To me, a relationship begins with a decision to date only ONE person and ends in a formal engagement or a difinitive dissolution of the relationship. I don't take the multiple partner thing lightly. IMO, courtship either ends in an engagement or a breakup, not when you're involved with 2 and 3 jokers at the same time.

I'm glad to see you've included the bible in this discussion. When you get a chance read Solomon 2:8-3:5.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

smc112 there are certain people we like to be around and certain people we don't like to be around. That's not being judgemental to me.

Ditto.

The key is that once you (general) realize who you don't want to associate with, go on about your (in general) business instead of slinging the person's reputation through the mud. As it relates to this topic, the "hoe" label exists because people were running their mouths. As it relates beyond the issue of sex, there are a lot of things and people that we don't associate with. Go on about your (general) business and don't volunteer info that ruin someone's reputation.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

To me, a relationship begins with a decision to date only ONE person and ends in a formal engagement or a difinitive dissolution of the relationship. I don't take the multiple partner thing lightly. IMO, courtship either ends in an engagement or a breakup, not when you're involved with 2 and 3 jokers at the same time.

I'm glad to see you've included the bible in this discussion. When you get a chance read Solomon 2:8-3:5.

I agree that people should be dating towards marriage. Why waste time dating a person that you can't see yourself ever marrying? Like my pastor says, "If you aren't ready for marriage, then you shouldn't be dating!"
Also, dating various people at one time can have a lot of repercussions.

Anyway, what book where you referring to? Is it Proverbs or Ecclesiastes? You wrote Solomon, and I wasn't sure which book you wanted me to read because Solomon wrote both books.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

Anyway, what book where you referring to? Is it Proverbs or Ecclesiastes? You wrote Solomon, and I wasn't sure which book you wanted me to read because Solomon wrote both books.

My bad. I was referring to the Song of Solomon. 2:8-3:5

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

I agree that people should be dating towards marriage. Why waste time dating a person that you can't see yourself ever marrying? Like my pastor says, "If you aren't ready for marriage, then you shouldn't be dating!"
Also, dating various people at one time can have a lot of repercussions.

Exactly. To me, IMO it's a waste of time dating just to be dating. A lot of jokers date to just date. Hey, whatever floats their boats.

But yes, I agree with you 110%. To me, dating is a prelude to marriage. A lot of young jokers are concerned about when they are ready to date. Like you said, they're ready to date when they're ready to begin the process of choosing someone to marry or when they have convictions they will not compromise. When I date, I look for the spiritual disciplines and spiritual direction evident in the life of the woman I'm dating. I never rely on the "someday I want to" or "I know I need to" or "after I'm married, I hope to" pointless statements. I look for the evidence "today" right now in the life of the woman I'm dating. The women that just want to date for the hell of it and not date for a long term, monogomous and serious relationship, I leave alone.

All of this no commitment, multiple joker, let's screw garbage that's been discussed in previous posts on this thread is some sick $%#@!