LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes

[SummerChild]

DSTChaos,

The reason that I personally have a problem with it is b/c it doesn't strike me as suitable to call any woman a derogatory term. I just don't think that it's good for our community to continue that kind of madness. This is why I have a problem with it. The title just doesn't strike me as something that is of the caliber to be on the Alpha Phi Alpha page and, appears at least to me, to disrespect all women. I was surprised to see it on the Alpha page.

SC

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

This is an old thread so maybe I'm forgetting how it started. Isn't the title in reference to "hoes" and not to "women?"

Perhaps the title can be changed to "promiscuous women (and men)." Would that really change the meaning beyond removing the catch phrase?

The discussion in this thread already addressed the subjectivity of the term "hoe."

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by SummerChild

DSTChaos,

The reason that I personally have a problem with it is b/c it doesn't strike me as suitable to call any woman a derogatory term. I just don't think that it's good for our community to continue that kind of madness. This is why I have a problem with it. The title just doesn't strike me as something that is of the caliber to be on the Alpha Phi Alpha page and, appears at least to me, to disrespect all women. I was surprised to see it on the Alpha page.

SC

Hoes are hoes. There are male hoes, female hoes, black hoes, white hoes, Asian hoes, educated hoes, dumb hoes......

This is an old thread. Have you been surprised for all these years?

[SummerChild]

Actually, I don't come to this board very often but I have noticed it off and on for a while. It just struck me that I have been noticing it off and on for awhile and to just say something. But, as you know, the fact that it is an old thread doesn't have any relevance towards the point of my post.

SC

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Hoes are hoes. There are male hoes, female hoes, black hoes, white hoes, Asian hoes, educated hoes, dumb hoes......

This is an old thread. Have you been surprised for all these years?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by SummerChild

the fact that it is an old thread doesn't have any relevance towards the point of my post.

SC

It actually does have relevance. But instead of helping to keep this 7 year old thread on top, maybe you can take your plea to an Alpha moderator via PM.

[rbm]

I just wanted to add my little bit. On the topic that started the post, I have a friend who has done this exact thing- and I haven't disowned her yet. Why? Because we have a mutual understanding that we view sex differently which I think is what this whole thing boils down to. She has her sexcapades and I disagree with them but that doesn't change the fact that she is my homie. Besides, discretion is the name of her game. Everyone involved knows that talking can bring a good thing to an end. Just because she likes to do the do doesn't make her any less of a good person. The guys aren't saints and their behavior can't be passed off as boys beings boys because they're just as dirty as she supposedly is if not more considering they have alot of this ocurring daily.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but at the end of the day it boils down to minding ur own darn business. Every promiscuous girl is not that way bc she's lost or wants attention. Believe it or not some girls like sex with no strings attached too-it's not only ok for the "men to "experiment" or "test the waters." If you don't like what someone is doing-don't concern urself with it. If it is forced upon u, let it be known that you're not interested-whether it be someone's sex life, probs with parents, class, what color shirt they're wearing to a party. It's life-and people are different. You don't like what someone is doing, show them how you feel by doing what you feel is right. Other than that-live ur life. Do you. Don't be concerned with the girl going through a row of frat brothers because if she feels it's wrong, she will deal with herself later.
In my opinion it looks worse for the frat bros bc people often associate them with their org. How about telling them to cut it out or slow it down? But people don't like to do that. Blame it on the woman..oh boy.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by rbm

In my opinion it looks worse for the frat bros bc people often associate them with their org. How about telling them to cut it out or slow it down? But people don't like to do that. Blame it on the woman..oh boy.

It does look bad for frat brothers to sleep with the same woman. I don't see how someone would over look that or try to point the blame on the female or try to ruin her character. They are in the same boat as far as morals go. Also, a lot of times people think that a woman is going through a whole fraternity and that might not even be the case. She might have just talked to one or two of them and some of the other Frat brother's might have approached her unknowingly. Especially if the woman is attractive, she might get approached by many men on the campus but that doesn't mean that she is running through a fraternity of guys. Anyway, the fraternity members need to just set some guidelines or standards in the way they conduct themselves. They should have an unspoken rule not to talk to a woman that another frat member has talked to. That way they don't have to ever worry about ruining a woman's character or theirs. There is definitely a double standard thing going on here. If you are sleeping with someone that isn't your husband/wife that is far too many. That applies to everyone: Male and Female. There's no difference!

[PrettyBoy]

I read through these new posts. As far as fraternity brothers discussing with each other who they've screwed or how many jokers in the fraternity she's screwed, rather they're having formal meetings about the garbage or whatever....blah blah blah. To me that's just pointless discussions. Fraternity member, regular joker, gdi joker, or whatever, as long as a man or woman sleeps with more than one person at a time without a monogomous relationship and refuses to stay with one person, is a skank. Man or woman. It doesn't matter.

I wouldn't even get into a pointless azz discussion with a Nupe, Alpha, Que, Sigma, Iota, gdi or or whoever, who can't keep his d*** in his pants. And I damn sure wouldn't associate myself with a whoremongering, no good, skank azz woman who can't keep her legs closed.

To me, jokers like this are all skank snakes who don't love or respect themselves. Period.