Pregnant and in a sorority

[SWTXBelle]

You need to immediately talk to your alumna advisor to find out your options. Will you stay in school after the birth of the baby?

Having a new baby AND going to school will be very taxing. I think going alumna, if an option, may be your best bet. I was in graduate school when I had my first one, and thought it would be a piece of cake to finish my thesis with the new baby. HA! I did finish, but it took 5 extra months - and I could do all my research and writing on my own time.

I wish you and your baby the best. I hope and pray your sisters will be supportive, and that you are able to work it out.

eta -Wait - Christians don't get pregnant??? Even a "Christian" sorority would, I hope, "hate the sin but love the sinner". I would shudder to think that kicking a member out would be their "Christian" response. WWJD, indeed.

[barnard1897]

Just my thoughts--definitely check into what your national says about this and get the necessary official policy.

You said you were only about 8 weeks along, right? If so, maybe considering holding off on announcing it to everyone for a few more weeks, till you are for sure into 2nd trimester. Not to be a nervous nellie and I'm sure your pregnancy is healthy and fine, but even in the work world, women keep this kind of news under wraps until after 1st trimester--to know with better certainty the pregnancy will be ok (after the initial ultrasound and workup with the OB) and because, frankly, it's no one else's business at this point. Yes, your sorority's reputation could be affected to some degree by this getting out, and if you are someone who drinks. people will probably begin to wonder if you aren't drinking when you're going out, etc. Still, I do know of women who have told the world at 8 weeks, and then...something happens with the pregnancy and perhaps it would have been easier for everyone if the news had not been shared.

[barnard1897]

Oops-I re-read your post and saw that you were 8 weeks along at Christmas time. So, never mind--you're probably close to 12 weeks by now!! I hope your chapter and leaders are supportive of you!! They should be!

[Ilaria Ame]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

-Wait - Christians don't get pregnant??? Even a "Christian" sorority would, I hope, "hate the sin but love the sinner". I would shudder to think that kicking a member out would be their "Christian" response. WWJD, indeed.

i meant that that's the only reason i could see why a sorority would kick a girl out...if it's a christian centered sorority that would say she's not adhering to their moral standards. i didn't mean to imply that if she were in one, she would be kicked out. sorry if i was unclear. i would HOPE that kicking a member out wouldn't be their response but i've heard far more bizzare stories come out of christian organizations.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

You need to immediately talk to your alumna advisor to find out your options. Will you stay in school after the birth of the baby?

Having a new baby AND going to school will be very taxing. I think going alumna, if an option, may be your best bet. I was in graduate school when I had my first one, and thought it would be a piece of cake to finish my thesis with the new baby. HA! I did finish, but it took 5 extra months - and I could do all my research and writing on my own time.

I wish you and your baby the best. I hope and pray your sisters will be supportive, and that you are able to work it out.

eta -Wait - Christians don't get pregnant??? Even a "Christian" sorority would, I hope, "hate the sin but love the sinner". I would shudder to think that kicking a member out would be their "Christian" response. WWJD, indeed.

Agreed!