Pregnant and in a sorority

SthrnZeta · #1 01-11-2008, 11:35 PM

Congrats Sister! If you and your Zeta family decide it's best to go ahead and tell everyone - which at some point you'll have to - why not make it known that you are happy about this and hope that your sisters will support you by having a candlelight instead of acting like it's some big secret? If they all know how happy you are, they will be too. Set the tone yourself and they'll follow suit. Good luck, ZLAM!

Leslie Anne · #2 01-12-2008, 12:00 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

why not make it known that you are happy about this and hope that your sisters will support you by having a candlelight instead of acting like it's some big secret? If they all know how happy you are, they will be too. Set the tone yourself and they'll follow suit.

I was wondering if anyone was going to suggest a candlelight. I'm completely with SthrnZeta on this. Celebrate it! Does the chapter know you're getting married in December?

It's not the 1950's anymore. Sure, it might not be ideal timing, but you're getting married and having a baby! This is happy news. Don't worry about reputations. You're not doing anything wrong.

Congratulations and best wishes!

AnatraAmore · #3 01-12-2008, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

Congrats Sister! If you and your Zeta family decide it's best to go ahead and tell everyone - which at some point you'll have to - why not make it known that you are happy about this and hope that your sisters will support you by having a candlelight instead of acting like it's some big secret? If they all know how happy you are, they will be too. Set the tone yourself and they'll follow suit. Good luck, ZLAM!

First, congrats on the little one! Second, we have done candle passes for alumnae sisters who were expecting... it's a magical and wonderful moment! I hope you'll be able to have an amazing experience when you tell the chapter and that they'll be supportive. (I love Carnation's example of the sorority throwing a shower - what an experience that must have been from such a large group of women!) Best of luck!!!

carnation · #4 01-12-2008, 09:47 AM

Just thinking...I can tell you as the reigning queen of pregnancies around here (haha!) that nearer the end of your pregnancy, your thoughts will center obsessively on the baby. Your house could burn down around you, your neighbors could fly to Venus, and all you'll be thinking about is your pregnancy and your baby.

So don't be surprised later on if staying active is the last thing on your mind...

ZTAngel · #5 01-12-2008, 04:30 PM

While I was pledging, I remember one of the seniors getting pregnant. She took early alum status. Everyone in my chapter was very understanding of her situation. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

AOII Angel · #6 01-12-2008, 05:20 PM

I think nittanyalum has a great idea! It's amazing how people take news if it's presented as a positive rather than a negative. Being engaged does seem to take the (gasp) scandal out of being pregnant and unmarried. This, at least, will give you time to decide whether or not being active after getting married and having your child is of any importance to you.