The 80/20 rule

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

ok....maybe some poeple have a different idea of the 80/20 rule....sheesh

Yes because it didn't originate with this movie, of course.

I think the basic point is that you get a lot of what you want and need from your mate. Never expect to get everything from your mate. That's what jobs, families, hobbies, religion, etc are for. These things combined create a whole person.

Also, people are different so comparing mates is a waste. If you have so much emotional energy and time to compare, you should stay with the former because the latter isn't doing something to keep you there.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Yes because it didn't originate with this movie, of course.

I think the basic point is that you get a lot of what you want and need from your mate. Never expect to get everything from your mate. That's what jobs, families, hobbies, religion, etc are for. These things combined create a whole person.

Also, people are different so comparing mates is a waste. If you have so much emotional energy and time to compare, you should stay with the former because the latter isn't doing something to keep you there.

I know it didn't orginate there....heheh but a lot of people picked up on that example and discussed it...it was interesting to hear responses...it wasn't something to be taken seriously but a lot of us had admitted to sometimes letting go a really great catch and having the next one come along somethign we wished we could throw back.....LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

I know it didn't orginate there....heheh but a lot of people picked up on that example and discussed it...it was interesting to hear responses...it wasn't something to be taken seriously but a lot of us had admitted to sometimes letting go a really great catch and having the next one come along somethign we wished we could throw back.....LOL

I've never really let go of a great catch. The relationship just fizzled or some things came to light. I think most relationships are transitory so there's no point in saving them when they aren't working for whatever reasons.

To me all relationships lead up to the grand finale. When you get to the grand finale, you know it and that's the relationship you will fight for. It also makes all that came before it pointless to think about.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

To me all relationships lead up to the grand finale. When you get to the grand finale, you know it and that's the relationship you will fight for. It also makes all that came before it pointless to think about.

Except as life/learning experiences that prepared you for the grand finale.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Except as life/learning experiences that prepared you for the grand finale.

Right. But that doesn't require the constant reflection that people who are stuck in their past do.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Right. But that doesn't require the constant reflection that people who are stuck in their past do.

Exactly.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Still, though, I tend to view things like the 80/20 rule, at least when applied to something like personal relationships, as a silly waste of time.

But what do I know? It's all biz-babble to me, and I hate biz-babble. I hate anything Covey-cult related as well.

Originally Posted by Animate

Havent seen the movie yet but this sounds like something thats going to have more women evaluating an already good relationship to the point of paranoia. Its all incredibly stupid to me.

Yinz are my 2 new boyfriends.

And yes, I've had guys say their girl after me didn't measure up to me, that they were in love with me the whole time they were dating their girl before me, etc etc. That's because they were trying to get in my pants. It ain't rocket science, kids.