The 80/20 rule

[DaemonSeid]

ok....maybe some poeple have a different idea of the 80/20 rule....sheesh

I am going to try and explain it again:

hmmmmmm

ok....we all have an idea of the 'perfect' mate.

We aren't going to get it...LOL (some do and some don't)

The end result of the person that we find that makes us happy is at least 80%...still with me?

Of course you can always add more...80% is that this person has many qualities that we are seekeing but there are a few things in there that we deal with that we may not like but it's not a deal breaker....for instance:

- they snore
- not exactly tall or muscular or large chested etc.
- maybe not make enough money but it's ok
- may have a really annoying habit

those kinds of examples may make up your 20% but:

- they can cook
- they listen
-they really LOVE you
- they have your back regardless of the situation

things like that make up your 80% and above.......


Now...say something happens and you an dthat person break up...

the next person you may find those examples are reversed:

this person is:

- this person is annoying on all levels
- a deadbeat
- can't cook
-won't clean

but otherwise:

- they are good in bed
- they may have potential but everything else overshadows it
- know how to act in public....

heheheh

They don't measure up to the last GREAT person you had in your life....


get it?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

ok....maybe some poeple have a different idea of the 80/20 rule....sheesh

Yes because it didn't originate with this movie, of course.

I think the basic point is that you get a lot of what you want and need from your mate. Never expect to get everything from your mate. That's what jobs, families, hobbies, religion, etc are for. These things combined create a whole person.

Also, people are different so comparing mates is a waste. If you have so much emotional energy and time to compare, you should stay with the former because the latter isn't doing something to keep you there.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Yes because it didn't originate with this movie, of course.

I think the basic point is that you get a lot of what you want and need from your mate. Never expect to get everything from your mate. That's what jobs, families, hobbies, religion, etc are for. These things combined create a whole person.

Also, people are different so comparing mates is a waste. If you have so much emotional energy and time to compare, you should stay with the former because the latter isn't doing something to keep you there.

I know it didn't orginate there....heheh but a lot of people picked up on that example and discussed it...it was interesting to hear responses...it wasn't something to be taken seriously but a lot of us had admitted to sometimes letting go a really great catch and having the next one come along somethign we wished we could throw back.....LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

I know it didn't orginate there....heheh but a lot of people picked up on that example and discussed it...it was interesting to hear responses...it wasn't something to be taken seriously but a lot of us had admitted to sometimes letting go a really great catch and having the next one come along somethign we wished we could throw back.....LOL

I've never really let go of a great catch. The relationship just fizzled or some things came to light. I think most relationships are transitory so there's no point in saving them when they aren't working for whatever reasons.

To me all relationships lead up to the grand finale. When you get to the grand finale, you know it and that's the relationship you will fight for. It also makes all that came before it pointless to think about.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

To me all relationships lead up to the grand finale. When you get to the grand finale, you know it and that's the relationship you will fight for. It also makes all that came before it pointless to think about.

Except as life/learning experiences that prepared you for the grand finale.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Except as life/learning experiences that prepared you for the grand finale.

Right. But that doesn't require the constant reflection that people who are stuck in their past do.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Right. But that doesn't require the constant reflection that people who are stuck in their past do.

Exactly.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Still, though, I tend to view things like the 80/20 rule, at least when applied to something like personal relationships, as a silly waste of time.

But what do I know? It's all biz-babble to me, and I hate biz-babble. I hate anything Covey-cult related as well.

Originally Posted by Animate

Havent seen the movie yet but this sounds like something thats going to have more women evaluating an already good relationship to the point of paranoia. Its all incredibly stupid to me.

Yinz are my 2 new boyfriends.

And yes, I've had guys say their girl after me didn't measure up to me, that they were in love with me the whole time they were dating their girl before me, etc etc. That's because they were trying to get in my pants. It ain't rocket science, kids.