3 day rule or what?

CUGreekgirl · #1 06-28-2004, 02:17 AM

I went out on what I thought was a fabulous date Friday night. I've been talking online to this guy for the past month EVERY night for around 4 hrs. or we talk on the phone for an hour or two.

Friday night was our first date. He drove 30 mins to pick me up, opened the car door for me, drove an hour to Savannah to eat at the Olive Garden (which he paid for). When we got back to my town, he asked if I wanted to go to Walmart (god that makes us sound like such hicks! He wanted to see if they had any new DUB city model cars in) so I said sure. I figured if he wasn't having a good time he wouldn't have suggested going to WalMart and instead would have taken me home and then went. Why prolong a date if you aren't enjoying yourself? He then took me home and walked me to my door. We told each other good night and he said he would talk to me later.

WELL.... its now sunday night/monday morning and I haven't heard anything from him. He got on MSN messanger last night and quickly signed out. I did send him an email letting him know I had a good time.

So is he doing the "don't call her for 3 days" thing that most guys do? I would think b/c we had talked every night for the last month he wouldn't use that rule, but I don't know.....

ADPiShannan · #2 06-28-2004, 03:40 PM

agreed. Its hard not to worry or wonder, but be sure of yourself. You are a great catch and any guy who doesnt see it doesnt deserve you. Wait and see if he calls in a few days, but if not, move on and date someone else.

Queencece · #3 06-28-2004, 06:47 PM

I agree.

Live your life and have fun! If he calls, great. If not, screw him.

Q

James · #4 06-28-2004, 07:25 PM

Is she really? Like do you know her? Or are you just being nice?

My advice: Call him. The person doing the calling is self-empowered.

Personally, I hate the call game. We all play it. Boys think, "well I don't want to be a nuisance or I don't really have anything involved to say, or we aren't going to make plans until the weekend so why call before thursday?."

Whereas the girl may be thinking, "Why isn't he touching base with me. Why isn't he letting me know he is still interested?"

That being said: He should have called you and reassured you that he had a good time and that he wanted to see you again. Assuming that is true.

In fact. He should have made realtively concrete plans with you before the end of your first date. Thats the best way to do it.

So call him and try and make plans. Thats the best way to see how he feels.

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Originally posted by ADPiShannan
You are a great catch and any guy who doesnt see it doesnt deserve you. .

steelepike · #5 06-29-2004, 01:57 AM

Watch Swingers and all your calling the opposite sex advice will be taken care of.

sororitygirl2 · #6 06-29-2004, 02:21 AM

I agree. Watch "Swingers" - one of the top 10 movies ever made.

Don't worry -either he will call or he won't - either way, you'll be fine.

He took you to Walmart? Hmmm... you may be better if he doesn't call...

CUGreekgirl · #7 06-29-2004, 04:28 AM

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Also, are you in Clemson for the summer? Because if you are I can't IMAGINE driving to Savannah for dinner (much less in an hour!).

Most definitely not in Clemson for the summer (unfortunately). I won't be returning until next spring or the fall of 2005

I'm going to try to make it up for at least a few football games. My 21st birthday is the night before the big Clemson/USC game so I definitely will be in Clemson that weekend, though I may not remember much of it.

As far as calling him goes...... I know this sounds horrible, but I don't have his phone #. He asked for my phone # first. He always called me from his mom's cell since there home phone is usually tied up with the internet and he doesn't have a cell right now (neither do I), so I never bothered asking for his number. He lives in a town with only a couple hundred people and I know his parents names so I could find his phone number without any problem, but I think that'd make it look a little too despreate. I did email him on Saturday night and let him know that I had a great time. If I don't hear from him by tonight I think I will email him and say my final goodbyes. Oh well, his loss. He wasn't a CU boy anyway. I need someone who understands my love and devotion for Tiger football (which is also why I'll never date another USC cock fan again either!)

ADPiShannan · #8 06-29-2004, 07:47 AM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by James
[B]Is she really? Like do you know her? Or are you just being nice?

I am sure she is. I do not know her, but that doesnt mean she isnt. Im not just being nice, Im being truthful. We all worry about this calling game and it sucks. I am a chronic worrier so I know how it feels to wonder why he didnt call. I was just letting her know not to fret over it cause guys are a dime a dozen till you find that right one.

winneythepooh7 · #9 06-29-2004, 07:51 AM

If I liked a guy I would have called him back the next day and when I know he is interested he has done the same. Move on. You are putting way too much worry into someone who obviously is NOT worth it.

decadence · #10 06-29-2004, 08:55 AM

He might think if he calls you early on afterwards you will see it as "STALKER!" "NEEDY!" "CLINGY" etc.

Not to say you would [or he would!] but some women do act that way and ruin it for others.

winneythepooh7 · #11 06-29-2004, 10:29 AM

Not to say you would [or he would!] but some women do act that way and ruin it for others. [/B][/QUOTE]

I have a friend like this. She meets a new guy and she is instantly in love and the flavor of the week is all she talks about. I've had some of her potential love interests tell me that the reason they are not interested is because she comes on too strong.

Peaches-n-Cream · #12 06-29-2004, 01:02 PM

If a guy took me to Walmart on a first date, I would be relieved that he didn't call. But that's just me.

If I wanted to see him again, I wouldn't look up his parents' number. I would email him, tell him that I had a great time, and that I looked forward to doing it again. If you do that and get no response, forget him.

AKA_Monet · #13 06-29-2004, 07:16 PM

Walmart??? WTH???

I don't care how much he paid for dinner, but a Walmart Date??? I don't think so!!!

You know he has a "situation" at the Walmart

Maybe he was "checking up" on his girlfriend at the Walmart she works at... To tell her that he can "play" too... Why else would he come up with a lame excuse to go to some chit like dat...

No callee, no emailee--no nuthin'! Forget about him. Leave him the HAYLE alone. I don't care how much fun you had, you are better off writing this luser Walmart assed date, don't know how to call a woman, that calls from his alleged "mama's cell phone" to talk to you...

Now, that's why you get caller ID with anonmynous call block service... Besides, whose email address is that really? Yeah, he can make some chit up, cain't he???

RedRoseSAI · #14 06-29-2004, 09:46 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
You know he has a "situation" at the Walmart

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I don't care how much fun you had, you are better off writing this luser Walmart assed date, don't know how to call a woman, that calls from his alleged "mama's cell phone" to talk to you...

Best advice I've heard all day.

KillarneyRose · #15 06-30-2004, 01:04 PM

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Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Walmart??? WTH???

I don't care how much he paid for dinner, but a Walmart Date??? I don't think so!!!

You know he has a "situation" at the Walmart

Maybe he was "checking up" on his girlfriend at the Walmart she works at... To tell her that he can "play" too... Why else would he come up with a lame excuse to go to some chit like dat...

Damn, you are GOOD! I never thought of that scenario but it makes total sense.