The 80/20 rule

[Animate]

Havent seen the movie yet but this sounds like something thats going to have more women evaluating an already good relationship to the point of paranoia. Its all incredibly stupid to me.

[REE1993]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Ok...so most of us have seen 'Why Did I Get Married" and the one thing I have heard in some discussions post movie is about the 80/20 rule....

so...is there any truth to it?

I kinda see it like this:

Some of us have a 100% idea of what we want from someone.

We may mostly meet people who can give us 50% and we have to decide if we wanna work with that.

If we are blessed we find someone who has 80% of what we are looking for...we get with that and stay.

However....if something happens and we break up(especially if it's our <'our' being used to mean anyone!!>fault!)....the next person(s) that come along will only be worth 20% of what we had...because it's damn near hard to find someone right off the bat that will be close to what we just lost.

Agree or disagree?


Speaking for myself personally, I remember a relationship that I was in years back where I was getting my 80% and after it ended...I just went thru this drought and saying to myself...if I could take the intelligence from person A and the funniness from person B, the drive of person C and so on...and mix them all up....I would have my last gf....LOL


Is it possible to take a 20% and build them up to at least a 70%?

How in the world is someone supposed to answer that question? How can you possibly put people, their attributes and feelings, into numerical values? Any numerical assignment is completely abritrary, and in my opinion, pointless.

It's really an insane question.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

MysticCat:

A lot of people are just learning of the 80/20 because of the new Tyler Perry movie.

That is really very sad.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by REE1993

How in the world is someone supposed to answer that question? How can you possibly put people, their attributes and feelings, into numerical values? Any numerical assignment is completely abritrary, and in my opinion, pointless.

It's really an insane question.



That is really very sad.

O sweet Jesus......

The percentages are arbitrary and relative to the emotional landmarks...not concrete numbers.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

Is it possible to take a 20% and build them up to at least a 70%?

Nope. That's like trying to change a slut into a decent woman with morals who respects herself, or a low down player joker who only wants the nookie and not the woman into a decent man. He/she has to want to change, which 9 times out of 10 is not going to happen.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Nope. That's like trying to change a slut into a decent woman with morals who respects herself, or a low down player joker who only wants the nookie and not the woman into a decent man. He/she has to want to change, which 9 times out of 10 is not going to happen.

PB thank u...a straight answer.....lol

[REE1993]

What I refered to as "sad" was the point you made that people have just heard the 80/20 Rule because it was in some recent movie. I thought that anyone who attended college (and even people who studied economics, marketing, etc. in HS), or had a job, would be able to explain it.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by REE1993

What I refered to as "sad" was the point you made that people have just heard the 80/20 Rule because it was in some recent movie. I thought that anyone who attended college (and even people who studied economics, marketing, etc. in HS), or had a job, would be able to explain it.

I made that point.

And I don't see it as "sad" at all. Many people who attended college or have a job have no use for knowing about this rule. People who took certain classes, have certain types of jobs, or randomly happened upon the 80/20 rule would know about it. That doesn't mean it is a important enough for everyone to know about it.

I actually think it's a rather insignificant rule as it doesn't pertain to my professional and personal lives.

[Marie]

Originally Posted by REE1993

What I refered to as "sad" was the point you made that people have just heard the 80/20 Rule because it was in some recent movie. I thought that anyone who attended college (and even people who studied economics, marketing, etc. in HS), or had a job, would be able to explain it.

Ree...he was discussing a completely different 'rendition' of the 80/20 rule...not the one that we are all most familiar with from corporate America.

[nittanyalum]

I always remember what my oldest brother told me (after he'd gotten married, I was engaged at the time), he said "don't go into marriage thinking it's 50/50, it's more like 80/80, you each have to give more all the time..."

[DSTCHAOS]

So in the end we reminded each other:

To always keep other outlets open in your life so you don't put your all and everything into your mate. And relationships take a lot of time and effort and it won't always be equally distributed.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

So in the end we reminded each other:

To always keep other outlets open in your life so you don't put your all and everything into your mate. And relationships take a lot of time and effort and it won't always be equally distributed.

^^^^ That is the lesson of the day....and knowing is 1/2 the battle.....LOL

[DSTCHAOS]

G.I. Jooeeeeeeeee

[SirHornyToad]

wtf

[DSTCHAOS]

Finally saw the movie. Now I see why most of the posts in this thread don't really address what the movie meant by the 80/20 rule. Particularly mine.

[SirHornyToad]

any chance you can succinctly explain it? I was having a really hard time getting through this thread