Hi, my name is Joseph... and I have a problem.

[Stef the Pef]

Um, there's a Dating and Relationships forum, smart one...

[JosephWang]

Well, so far the responses are that I should post
1)In the Sigma Nu section
2)In the Dating/Relationship section.

And I was called an idiot. This isn't the most supportive forum out there, is it. I posted under "general chat/chit chat." That means off-topic.

And the fact that I said I wanted to hook up with someone in the area, you think that's wierd? Maybe this will shock you, but there's just a little bit of casual sex going on in fraternities and sororities, and that's putting it mildly. The prudishness is somewhat amusing. You think that urges like that stop when you get out of college? Heck, you probably think 27 years old is over the hill.

Well, you are all probably saying to yourselves that you won't end up with job problems, or relationship problems when you get out of school, or you'll never be lonely. Well, I'm lonely, and I think you'll find that outside of college, most people are lonely. I'm sorry that you think that's a crime, but this place is suppossed to be about fraternity, togetherness and so on. The fact is, once you get out of college, I think you'll all find that the pool of available people to run with and date is going to dry up drastically.

I just came in here to blow off some steam about that.

[kathykd2005]

Go to a dating service.

[JosephWang]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

Go to a dating service.

Yeah, like eharmony? What a nightmare. You jump through several hoops to get to an open communication stage and then you meet IRL and it's terrible... the person was nothing like they said, or they have kids or major baggage... I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I didn't run up $50K on credit cards to buy shoes.

It's kind of tough being in your thirties and looking for a mate that isn't all used up or an alcoholic or something. Savor your 20s!

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by JosephWang

Yeah, like eharmony? What a nightmare. You jump through several hoops to get to an open communication stage and then you meet IRL and it's terrible... the person was nothing like they said, or they have kids or major baggage... I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I didn't run up $50K on credit cards to buy shoes.

It's kind of tough being in your thirties and looking for a mate that isn't all used up or an alcoholic or something. Savor your 20s!

I'm married so I don't have to savor my twenties, or look for dates online. You seem like you have a lot of excuses. How about a little less whining and a little more action? It's Friday night, go out and have some fun.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by JosephWang

This isn't the most supportive forum out there, is it.

You want support? Try Hanes.

Welcome to GC. We're direct, truthful, and we don't sugarcoat.

[JosephWang]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

You want support? Try Hanes.

That's pretty snappy, I'll have to remember that the next time someone asks me for help. I do appreciate your honesty though.

I might whine a lot, but it's only because I know I'm a beta male. Women want Alpha's, not betas, and I will always be a Beta. I only got laid twice during my four years in a frat. That's pathetic, isn't it.

Go ahead, be honest, don't sugarcoat, that's why I'm here.

[JosephWang]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

I'm married so I don't have to savor my twenties, or look for dates online. You seem like you have a lot of excuses.

Well, good for you, but it sounds like you're bragging. No, I'm not as lucky as you to get married and always have someone there for you.

As for getting out, I've been getting out now for years and years and it hasn't really led to happiness in all those thousands of tries... I mean, in terms of finding something serious. You'll probably tell me to go to Starbucks or Borders Book Store or the Grocery Store or a Bar. And all those places suck.

I'm happy you don't have to look for dates online; I know I'm pathetic by comparison.

[smiley21]

Originally Posted by JosephWang

. I only got laid twice during my four years in a frat. That's pathetic, isn't it.

Not really. I guess it depends on your point of view. I don't understand why you need to let the world know how many people you got into bed.

And you going on and on about how pathetic you are is pathetic within itself. Snap out of it.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by JosephWang

. . . job at Adbrite. My boss, Pud Kaplan . . .

[James]

Strong first post.

Originally Posted by JosephWang

I went out partying with my good friend, Kelly, and it was understood that we were going out as a couple that night.

Well, at the bar, Kelly started getting a little drunk. Next thing I know, I'm giving a ride to her and this other guy she started talking to that said he needed a ride.

I dropped the guy off, and then Kelly said that she needed to go inside to use the bathroom.

After waiting for a while, I went in to check up and Kelly was in the bathroom having loud sex with this guy.

I was humiliated and drove home crying. The next day Kelly called up and was acting all innocent. When I said I didn't want to talk to her, she said that I was just a "Wierd stalker Jewish asshole" and she hated me.

I've just had a very bad couple of years. I hate to go on and on, but it all started last summer when I lost my job at Adbrite. My boss, Pud Kaplan, lost the position as CEO. On his way being escorted out of the building, he yelled at me and called me a fruitcake.

A few weeks later, I was canned. I tried to go out at night to make myself feel better. I ended up with this girl I'll call 'Scamp.' One night we were going at it and she was making sounds and I said, 'are you dying?' and she suddenly freaked out and left.

I guess I'm just very depressed. What can I do to feel better? And is there anyone in Washington DC that wants to hook up tonight?

Singing off,

Joe Wang
8792372632

[JosephWang]

Originally Posted by smiley21

Not really. I guess it depends on your point of view. I don't understand why you need to let the world know how many people you got into bed.

And you going on and on about how pathetic you are is pathetic within itself. Snap out of it.

It's just the point of view of a guy. This sort of thing is important to guys, don't let them tell you it isn't. We all want to do it as much as possible. I like being honest and direct myself. It's not so much the number as it is the fact that you either get it or you don't.

You'll meet oh so sensitive guys in your women's studies classes that pretend not to be misogynists, but deep down they're all pigs just like me. Which is not something bad.... it just is, you know? It's in our nature.

[JosephWang]

Hi Mystic Cat.

It's a real company and Pud is a real person. You can check it out if you want. He used to be a very popular guy and was pretty A-list for the internet. He's slipped a lot in the past few years though. That, and he's balding.

[smiley21]

Originally Posted by JosephWang

It's just the point of view of a guy. This sort of thing is important to guys, don't let them tell you it isn't. We all want to do it as much as possible. I like being honest and direct myself. It's not so much the number as it is the fact that you either get it or you don't.

Yeah, I know that. I know a lot of guys that care about the number very much and I think it is silly.

[JosephWang]

Originally Posted by smiley21

Yeah, I know that. I know it is for their ego. I know a lot of guys that care about the number very much and I think it is silly.

And what's more, the fact is that it is impossible for boys and girls to be just friends. Unless they happen to be homosexual.

You might have a little beta boy that you pal around with and tell all your problems to, but he secretly wants you in bed and you secretly know that.