Hi, my name is Joseph... and I have a problem.

JosephWang · #1 08-03-2007, 07:59 PM

Well, so far the responses are that I should post
1)In the Sigma Nu section
2)In the Dating/Relationship section.

And I was called an idiot. This isn't the most supportive forum out there, is it. I posted under "general chat/chit chat." That means off-topic.

And the fact that I said I wanted to hook up with someone in the area, you think that's wierd? Maybe this will shock you, but there's just a little bit of casual sex going on in fraternities and sororities, and that's putting it mildly. The prudishness is somewhat amusing. You think that urges like that stop when you get out of college? Heck, you probably think 27 years old is over the hill.

Well, you are all probably saying to yourselves that you won't end up with job problems, or relationship problems when you get out of school, or you'll never be lonely. Well, I'm lonely, and I think you'll find that outside of college, most people are lonely. I'm sorry that you think that's a crime, but this place is suppossed to be about fraternity, togetherness and so on. The fact is, once you get out of college, I think you'll all find that the pool of available people to run with and date is going to dry up drastically.

I just came in here to blow off some steam about that.

kathykd2005 · #2 08-03-2007, 08:00 PM

Go to a dating service.

JosephWang · #3 08-03-2007, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by kathykd2005

Go to a dating service.

Yeah, like eharmony? What a nightmare. You jump through several hoops to get to an open communication stage and then you meet IRL and it's terrible... the person was nothing like they said, or they have kids or major baggage... I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I didn't run up $50K on credit cards to buy shoes.

It's kind of tough being in your thirties and looking for a mate that isn't all used up or an alcoholic or something. Savor your 20s!

kathykd2005 · #4 08-03-2007, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

Yeah, like eharmony? What a nightmare. You jump through several hoops to get to an open communication stage and then you meet IRL and it's terrible... the person was nothing like they said, or they have kids or major baggage... I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I didn't run up $50K on credit cards to buy shoes.

It's kind of tough being in your thirties and looking for a mate that isn't all used up or an alcoholic or something. Savor your 20s!

I'm married so I don't have to savor my twenties, or look for dates online. You seem like you have a lot of excuses. How about a little less whining and a little more action? It's Friday night, go out and have some fun.

JosephWang · #5 08-03-2007, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by kathykd2005

I'm married so I don't have to savor my twenties, or look for dates online. You seem like you have a lot of excuses.

Well, good for you, but it sounds like you're bragging. No, I'm not as lucky as you to get married and always have someone there for you.

As for getting out, I've been getting out now for years and years and it hasn't really led to happiness in all those thousands of tries... I mean, in terms of finding something serious. You'll probably tell me to go to Starbucks or Borders Book Store or the Grocery Store or a Bar. And all those places suck.

I'm happy you don't have to look for dates online; I know I'm pathetic by comparison.

kathykd2005 · #6 08-03-2007, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

Well, good for you, but it sounds like you're bragging. No, I'm not as lucky as you to get married and always have someone there for you.

Bragging? No, I'm just replying to what you told me to do--to savor my twenties. I don't have to, because I'm married and there's no need to do so. You sound like you're having a pity party to me.

AKA_Monet · #7 08-03-2007, 10:39 PM

I am probably going to get slammed for this:

Joseph, have you talked to a professional? How is that working for you? You seem to have some self-esteem issues that are now hurting your morale.

Your post should be moved to the "Dating and Relationships" topic because your issues are relevant to interpersonal relationships. Also, GC is not "Jerry Springer" where you should feel empowered to dump your feelings on unsuspecting GC discussants...

How should one encounter your pain and suffering? (Who isn't licensed)

Joseph, I am going to ask you another question because I am trying to understand what is going on with you: by posting your concerns, what is it that you expect to gain from it?

AlphaFrog · #8 08-03-2007, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

This isn't the most supportive forum out there, is it.

You want support? Try Hanes.

Welcome to GC. We're direct, truthful, and we don't sugarcoat.

JosephWang · #9 08-03-2007, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

You want support? Try Hanes.

That's pretty snappy, I'll have to remember that the next time someone asks me for help. I do appreciate your honesty though.

I might whine a lot, but it's only because I know I'm a beta male. Women want Alpha's, not betas, and I will always be a Beta. I only got laid twice during my four years in a frat. That's pathetic, isn't it.

Go ahead, be honest, don't sugarcoat, that's why I'm here.

smiley21 · #10 08-03-2007, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

. I only got laid twice during my four years in a frat. That's pathetic, isn't it.

Not really. I guess it depends on your point of view. I don't understand why you need to let the world know how many people you got into bed.

And you going on and on about how pathetic you are is pathetic within itself. Snap out of it.

JosephWang · #11 08-03-2007, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by smiley21

Not really. I guess it depends on your point of view. I don't understand why you need to let the world know how many people you got into bed.

And you going on and on about how pathetic you are is pathetic within itself. Snap out of it.

It's just the point of view of a guy. This sort of thing is important to guys, don't let them tell you it isn't. We all want to do it as much as possible. I like being honest and direct myself. It's not so much the number as it is the fact that you either get it or you don't.

You'll meet oh so sensitive guys in your women's studies classes that pretend not to be misogynists, but deep down they're all pigs just like me. Which is not something bad.... it just is, you know? It's in our nature.

smiley21 · #12 08-03-2007, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

It's just the point of view of a guy. This sort of thing is important to guys, don't let them tell you it isn't. We all want to do it as much as possible. I like being honest and direct myself. It's not so much the number as it is the fact that you either get it or you don't.

Yeah, I know that. I know a lot of guys that care about the number very much and I think it is silly.

JosephWang · #13 08-03-2007, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by smiley21

Yeah, I know that. I know it is for their ego. I know a lot of guys that care about the number very much and I think it is silly.

And what's more, the fact is that it is impossible for boys and girls to be just friends. Unless they happen to be homosexual.

You might have a little beta boy that you pal around with and tell all your problems to, but he secretly wants you in bed and you secretly know that.

James · #14 08-03-2007, 09:14 PM

You seem more like a "nice" guy than a pig. A pig wouldn't have gotten played like that, or taken it so personally if they did.

I don't know if you are legit or not, but my general suggestion would be stop trying for a while, join a gym, get buff, take some dance classes, maybe buy some new clothes, and get a more aggressive attitude.

Damn man, if there is a girl out there that wants a whiny guy with no self confidence . . well who would want her?

ETA: Don't forget to wash behind your ears.

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Originally Posted by JosephWang

It's just the point of view of a guy. This sort of thing is important to guys, don't let them tell you it isn't. We all want to do it as much as possible. I like being honest and direct myself. It's not so much the number as it is the fact that you either get it or you don't.

You'll meet oh so sensitive guys in your women's studies classes that pretend not to be misogynists, but deep down they're all pigs just like me. Which is not something bad.... it just is, you know? It's in our nature.

JosephWang · #15 08-03-2007, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by James

You seem more like a "nice" guy than a pig. A pig wouldn't have gotten played like that, or taken it so personally if they did.

I don't know if you are legit or not, but my general suggestion would be stop trying for a while, join a gym, get buff, take some dance classes, maybe buy some new clothes, and get a more aggressive attitude.

Damn man, if there is a girl out there that wants a whiny guy with no self confidence . . well who would want her?

ETA: Don't forget to wash behind your ears.

I think the hard truth of the matter is... that I don't really like women. I'm attracted to them, but I tend not to like them. It's like, why should I 'try to get buff' or 'act aggressive.' I'm not a jock, I don't want to be something I'm not, why should I change?

I like old women, they're easy to talk to, no bullshit likeable people.

Young girls are all catty, and when you get to be older and you're pawing around trying to find someone decent, you can't, so you just end up with hook ups, like my friend Kelly I mentioned. I can't believe I fell in love with that ho.

A lot of other girls just seem to have these unrealistic expectations. Have you seen their postings on Craigslist, etc? They list like a 1000 things they want in a potential mate. And I'm not suppossed to feel inadequate?

American Women are worthless. And from what I can tell from my friend's marriage, they make terrible wives. I'm going to marry a nice, submissive Asian girl.

I hope you don't think I'm too out there, I just wanted to have an HONEST discussion about how I REALLY feel. I want you to all come back from this thread with the feeling that you interacted with someone online who wasn't pulling any punches or editing himself.

Thanks for listening.