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Oh my Lord! I am a little horrified that there are some many ppl who are not somewhat disturbed by this.
I am pretty sure that the article mentioned that they were caught exchanging text messages a 2 in the AM when she was still 14. I know that a lot of you say that you had much older friends when you were in your early teens, but really...were you chatting it up with them in the middle of the night? and if so what about? I mean, who here honestly believes that at 2 AM he was giving her coaching or life advice?
I guess a better question is what 40+ yr olds on this board have teenage friends? Do you consider them your buddy like your other 40+ yr old friends? Would you have them stand up in your wedding or some other 'friend-like' commitment like that? It seems like when you're a teenager hanging out with older folks you might view your relationship as a friendship. However, maybe they viewed it as a mentorship or a big bro/big sis type of relationship...different from their other grown up friendships.
Also, we keep speaking to the emotional maturity that 16 yr olds had back in our grand parents generation. However, the mere fact that she couldn't/wouldn't wait until she graduated from high school and gave her parents the silent treatment (a move that I have not pulled since I was a teen myself) kinda shows that she isn't emotionally ready for marriage. The fact that he didn't come directly to her parents, state his intentions, and develop their 'friendship/relationship' in the open shows that his intentions are a bit less than honorable.
Ultimately the fault lies with her parents. I can't believe that they let it get this far, and I am sooooo glad that my parents nipped any such foolishness right in the bud. I couldn't have been friends (the chatting at 2 AM kind) with a guy 3 yrs older than me...let alone 20 yrs. Unbelievable!
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