Too fat to recruit: or, DePauw, the Sequel

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by pialpha92

If they are good enough to be your sister the other 51 weeks of the year they should be good enough to be your sister during recruitment.

Absolutely.

But valuing her membership doesn't mean she has to star in the skit if she can't act or rush every party every round if she's super shy. Nor would it mean that you needed to put a less that flattering picture in the recruitment guide. Play to the strengths of the group for what you know to be a superficial process.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

Absolutely.

But valuing her membership doesn't mean she has to star in the skit if she can't act or rush every party every round if she's super shy. Nor would it mean that you needed to put a less that flattering picture in the recruitment guide. Play to the strengths of the group for what you know to be a superficial process.

A rusher who is super shy may be off-putting to the one PNM she is rushing, but a rusher who is unattractive may be off-putting to every PNM who can see her.

I wish it weren't true as much as anyone, but small chapters have to do what they must to survive.

[KSUViolet06]

Our personal chapter experiences have alot to do with how we feel about this type of situation. For example, my chapter has never dealt with having to hide women because it wasn't something that was an issue on my campus. Greek Life wasn't SO competitive that we had to do things like that to get numbers. I think that's why I feel the way I do about this.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

A rusher who is super shy may be off-putting to the one PNM she is rushing, but a rusher who is unattractive may be off-putting to every PNM who can see her.

I wish it weren't true as much as anyone, but small chapters have to do what they must to survive.

I understand that groups need to do what they can to survive and I'm alway cautious about condemning a group for how they handle a problem that other groups address with cuts in membership selection, but I'm actually more surprised that you think it would work than that people would do it if it did.

I'm also starting to think that you mean a freak show level of unattractiveness rather than simply being less than ideal. At the point that someone is turning people off the group from across the room, maybe we're not talking about the same thing.

ETA: I'm really thinking about it. I've never known a member (or a severely limited number of members) who was so different from the rest of the group in appearance that you could "hide" her or them and gain a big advantage. Describe what we're talking about here DBB. I'm not going to judge you for it, I promise.