How do you trust someone?

[1908Revelations]

DSTCHAOS, I pretty much share your sentiments.

I don't see anything wrong with people meeeting other people off of the internet, but I sure as hell am not going to do it.

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

DSTCHAOS, I pretty much share your sentiments.

I don't see anything wrong with people meeeting other people off of the internet, but I sure as hell am not going to do it.

/hijack
I have met 3 men since I was of legal age from an internet dating sites...the first was a great guy who eventually came from NY to visit but the distance kinda faded things..the second was lame but a really nice guy and we are still friends...the third I met and we dated for several months...my thing is respecting your own comfort zone...I always meet dates out in public and they only get the work cell at first...I drive mysef and if he's crazy then he doesn't really know much about me...but I'm a talker so in my case we had talked on the phone/emailed for a while until I felt comfortable...I personally think that there are psychos in the club, on the net, at the market, etc so the internet isn't different from any other setting...I actually like the fact that on the internet at first at least a man has to be able to type, spell, and use the king's english correctly.I still have the same requirements that I have with a man I met elsewhere,...ie eduacation, no more than 1 child if any, a sense of spirituality, etc..from there it's the phone conversations...I don't know I was kinda adventurous/crazy in my younger years...now I'm a mommy and its all different...kinda...

[1908Revelations]

^^^ Oh, I agree that there are crazy people everywhere!!! I am just more of a skeptic about the internet. I don't frequent clubs, but I got cussed out about a month ago for not giving a guy my number. I was being nice about it, but he was not hearing it.

/end hijack

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

^^^ Oh, I agree that there are crazy people everywhere!!! I am just more of a skeptic about the internet. I don't frequent clubs, but I got cussed out about a month ago for not giving a guy my number. I was being nice about it, but he was not hearing it.

/end hijack

I've been called a dyke several times for passing up guys. Another girl at my school walked past a guy without speaking when he catcalled her and he pulled a gun on her

[PM_Mama00]

He came clean today about everything, and I confessed that I found him on there. He has no clue that that's why I was being a psycho. He told me the reason he was trying to get me to come over alone was because he knew I wouldn't and wanted to scare me away because of his situation. He said he just looks for girls to talk to online, not to meet in person or anything.

His situation? He was 18 and met a girl online. They would go to 18 and up clubs and stuff. He broke up with her and one day he got a phone call from the cops. Apparently she was 15 but had a fake ID. Instead of going to jail for 15 years, he pled some other plea that I forget. I'm going to look into it with the state police. If he really is telling the truth, he's actually a pretty cool guy, and I wouldn't want to miss the chance of getting to know him.

[James]

Why didn't he just say he didn't want to take it to the next level? Or say he didn't want to meet you, just wanted to stay pen-pals so to speak.

That seems easier than trying to terrify you.

Who does that?

Maybe if you think he is a cool guy you should just keep chatting online and leave the meeting alone.

You can get to know him fine just by chatting.

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

He came clean today about everything, and I confessed that I found him on there. He has no clue that that's why I was being a psycho. He told me the reason he was trying to get me to come over alone was because he knew I wouldn't and wanted to scare me away because of his situation. He said he just looks for girls to talk to online, not to meet in person or anything.

His situation? He was 18 and met a girl online. They would go to 18 and up clubs and stuff. He broke up with her and one day he got a phone call from the cops. Apparently she was 15 but had a fake ID. Instead of going to jail for 15 years, he pled some other plea that I forget. I'm going to look into it with the state police. If he really is telling the truth, he's actually a pretty cool guy, and I wouldn't want to miss the chance of getting to know him.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

He came clean today about everything, and I confessed that I found him on there. He has no clue that that's why I was being a psycho. He told me the reason he was trying to get me to come over alone was because he knew I wouldn't and wanted to scare me away because of his situation. He said he just looks for girls to talk to online, not to meet in person or anything.
If he really is telling the truth, he's actually a pretty cool guy, and I wouldn't want to miss the chance of getting to know him.

If all he wanted was to keep it online, he should have just said that outright. Seriously, something is not right in his head. I really wouldn't bother with him.

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

This guy sounds really creepy! I would stay far, far away from him, including on the internet. It doesn't seem wise to continue this whole "online pen-pal" thing anymore.

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

He told me the reason he was trying to get me to come over alone was because he knew I wouldn't and wanted to scare me away because of his situation. He said he just looks for girls to talk to online, not to meet in person or anything.

That's really lame. It sounds like he's just trying to backpedal after you wouldn't agree to meet him alone...you know, like, "Oh, I didn't really want you to come over to my house alone--I was just saying that! Ha ha ha..."