How do you trust someone?

[smiley21]

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

I wasn't asking how I trust him.... just how do you trust people at all. Any new person you, without having some kind of connection to them, could be anyone. So how to you try to trust people you JUST met?

That's just it. You don't need to trust people who you have just met. People need to earn your trust. And we (especially women) need to protect ourselves when getting involved with different people. Pay attention to all of these red flags this guy is giving you. People like this should not have our trust. Forget the sex offender stuff. Just look at the way he is already trying to control you by saying how you guys should meet. I can already sense things are going to get worse if you continue with him. When it comes to internet dating, I think guys and girls should take proactive steps in learning about the person so that you are comfortable. If people cannot respect that, then screw them. You can find someone better.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally Posted by smiley21

That's just it. You don't need to trust people who you have just met. People need to earn your trust. And we (especially women) need to protect ourselves when getting involved with different people. Pay attention to all of these red flags this guy is giving you. People like this should not have our trust. Forget the sex offender stuff. Just look at the way he is already trying to control you by saying how you guys should meet. I can already sense things are going to get worse if you continue with him. When it comes to internet dating, I think guys and girls should take proactive steps in learning about the person so that you are comfortable. If people cannot respect that, then screw them. You can find someone better.

Definitely done with him. He creeped me out at first but I thought "hmm maybe it's just me". But yeah... def gone.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by smiley21

When it comes to internet dating, I think guys and girls should take proactive steps in learning about the person so that you are comfortable. If people cannot respect that, then screw them. You can find someone better.

I think that's true for dating anyone. When I met the current Mr. Munch (in real life), he gave me his business card--and of course before I accepted the first date, I did a small bit of reconaissance to make sure that his story lined up. Unless I know a guy through friends, I always do a little research to make sure he doesn't have kids and a wife, or a criminal record, before accepting a date. It might be unromantic, but I'm alive.

[ziasha07]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

It might be unromantic, but I'm alive.

So true.

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think that's true for dating anyone. When I met the current Mr. Munch (in real life), he gave me his business card--and of course before I accepted the first date, I did a small bit of reconaissance to make sure that his story lined up. Unless I know a guy through friends, I always do a little research to make sure he doesn't have kids and a wife, or a criminal record, before accepting a date. It might be unromantic, but I'm alive.

My best friend had a friend set her up with one of her co-workers and he turned out to be married. Nobody at his WORK even knew he was married. Too weird.

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

Is this the same boy who made a snowman on your lawn that one time? Lol I probably know him. Could you PM me his name? Lol I hope it's not a relative! I've found that Italian boys like skinny girls though. Who knows?

I think it was his brother who did the snowman thing, he's a few years younger and a bit more wild. I PMd you though.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I think that's true for dating anyone. When I met the current Mr. Munch (in real life), he gave me his business card--and of course before I accepted the first date, I did a small bit of reconaissance to make sure that his story lined up. Unless I know a guy through friends, I always do a little research to make sure he doesn't have kids and a wife, or a criminal record, before accepting a date. It might be unromantic, but I'm alive.

I think this is standard and safe dating behavior - I was introduced to my boyfriend through mutual friends and I still asked them if he was for real, what his deal was, etc. It's always better to be safe.

PM_Mama, this guy sounds really sketchy and like one of my future clients. I'd stay away. Most guys who have a statutory rape for something like that are much more up front about it.