Is sex really that big of a deal?

AKA_Monet · #1 03-17-2007, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

*Only problem is, at my age, my longest relationship was for less than 4 months and it was back in high school. It seems waiting till I'm married is the reason that I can't find a guy to stay with me long enough to marry me.

So there is nothing wrong with waiting. It's just how long do you want to wait?

Sometimes, to find the best man for the job, you have to wait until your 30's or 40's.

I am a firm believer of pursuing your life goals. Get a career/job or goto grad/professional school. Then stabilize your financial situation before even dragging someone else into the mix.

I'd say, if you are going to be a physician or a neurosurgeon, you will be in school forever, save your eggs.

But, you have a world of experience.

Somewhere on GC we discussed that you ought not be defined by the marriage to a man... That truly does not define you. Yet, I am a party to attest to the fact that "when I get a man...." mythology. When I did get married, our honeymoon was over before we had one... So, it didn't make a difference for me.

christiangirl · #2 03-17-2007, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

So there is nothing wrong with waiting. It's just how long do you want to wait?

Sometimes, to find the best man for the job, you have to wait until your 30's or 40's.

AAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I DON'T WANT TO BE THE 40-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN!!!!!

Lol, but I'm still waiting till I'm married. I just want to wait to have sex till I'm married...I don't want my waiting to have sex be the reason I have to wait forever to get married. If that makes sense.

tld221 · #3 03-17-2007, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't want my waiting to have sex be the reason I have to wait forever to get married. If that makes sense.

now finally i can agree with you.

while im still a virgin who isnt down with the whole "waiting for marriage" thing (dont wanna get married), i feel like if i ever DO get married, i'll still be a virgin and it'll just be coincidental that i remained so until then.

really, im just waiting on someone who a little less than mr. right, and way more than mr. right now... meaning he doesnt have to be my sunmoonandstars, but he just cant be some joe blow on the corner.

Dionysus · #4 03-17-2007, 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221

really, im just waiting on someone who a little less than mr. right, and way more than mr. right now... meaning he doesnt have to be my sunmoonandstars, but he just cant be some joe blow on the corner.

or she...

Right on though.

tld221 · #5 03-17-2007, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Dionysus

or she...

Right on though.

yeah i hear that!

AKA_Monet · #6 03-17-2007, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

AAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I DON'T WANT TO BE THE 40-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN!!!!!

Lol, but I'm still waiting till I'm married. I just want to wait to have sex till I'm married...I don't want my waiting to have sex be the reason I have to wait forever to get married. If that makes sense.

So we know that loss of virginity in women is politically and a whole bunch of other things is different than loss of virginity in a man...

I am willing to bet that you will be married in your mid-20's because some guy will figure out that if he wants you, he has to marry you.

The sad part is that he marries you, and he is unwilling to "share" his enjoyment and experience with you just so he can taste your "wine"... And then he leaves you because you may not be into the "learning curve" and don't want to play "catch up". Or, the first time, your lucky, your are pregnant and don't feel like having sex during your pregnancy... Then what does he do?

I mean, I don't need to know this information, but those are the kinds of things you have to consider in relationships.

Generally, a man in his mid-30's+ is into starting a family these days... There's research on that aspect.

PrettyBoy · #7 03-19-2007, 02:31 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

AAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I DON'T WANT TO BE THE 40-YEAR-OLD VIRGIN!!!!!

Lol, but I'm still waiting till I'm married. I just want to wait to have sex till I'm married...I don't want my waiting to have sex be the reason I have to wait forever to get married. If that makes sense.

Great idea. If I were you I would wait. And when you do get married, you'll know if he's the right man because if he's willing to wait for you, then that to me means he loves you for you and only you. Good luck.