Deltas I truly need ya'll help

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #1 01-19-2007, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Reds6

But Steph, you all knew each other and we made it a point to know you guys and for you guys to know us before you were selected.

There's no way someone could have hid they were a single parent. The point of pledging is to build trust as you bond and learn about your sister. Staying strong and enduring.

Soror...you misunderstood my post...I didn't hide the fact I was a parent or my age...I just didn't make those facts the preamble to everything I said or did while around my pros before I was selected...I knew the reputation of my chapter and that I would be ummm "busy" alot and I didn't want the fact that I was a mother be the automatic reason I wasn't selected..when my line "hung out" it was usually at my house because I had my daughter, she was no secret....with the current case in this thread, why would it be necessary for the soror to put her sexuality out there...heterosexuals don't greet people with "hello I'm so and so and by the way I'm straight"...just like with being selected for a job, its human nature that people's personal biases and beliefs will come into play when they are making selections...I have a LS that we all kinda suspect is possibly gay, does it matter to me? No, why should it, do you...I went through hell and high water with my line but my two LSs that I'm best friends with I learn new stuff about them all the time...hell I learn new things about my siblings still...I can't be mad at soror for going through her process as a woman who happens to be a lesbian as opposed to a lesbian who is becoming a Delta...I'm sure there's so much more that she is bringing to the table...

ETA: just read what went down in the posts yesterday...definitely not condoning the disrespect that went on..I'm sure young soror is just hurting and frustrated though...like I said earlier, let the haters hate and know that Delta is bigger then your chapter...best of luck to you...

Lolaluvsdelta · #2 01-19-2007, 11:38 AM

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

DSTKellie · #3 01-19-2007, 11:44 AM

Who are you?

DSTCHAOS · #4 01-19-2007, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

^^^ Not really a Delta

Reds6 · #5 01-19-2007, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

^^^ Not really a Delta

LOL! I really hate you! LOL

Reds6 · #6 01-19-2007, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

^NEO

DSTCHAOS · #7 01-19-2007, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Reds6

^NEO

He/she wishes.

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LOL! I really hate you! LOL

CrimsonTide4 · #8 01-19-2007, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Lolaluvsdelta

I don't understand how the OP was disrespectful?? The whole time Reds was questioning the validity of her post and basically calling her a liar. Who wouldn't get offended or upset by that?

Far as the gay thing I would have an issue with that cause thats just something i aint used to seeing.

You need to introduce yourself in the appropriate thread.

ladygreek · #9 01-19-2007, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

You need to introduce yourself in the appropriate thread.

Is there a thread where perps can introduce themselves?

DSTCHAOS · #10 01-19-2007, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by OOhsoflyDELTA#9

Soror...you misunderstood my post...I didn't hide the fact I was a parent or my age...I just didn't make those facts the preamble to everything I said or did while around my pros before I was selected...I knew the reputation of my chapter and that I would be ummm "busy" alot and I didn't want the fact that I was a mother be the automatic reason I wasn't selected..when my line "hung out" it was usually at my house because I had my daughter, she was no secret

Your post was misleading because it read like you weren't forthcoming with the information. Then you stated it wasn't hard to not be forthcoming because you went to a large commuter school. Thanks for clarifying that everyone knew your age and the fact that you were a single parent. Well...I guess that's what you're saying.

As far as how "busy" you would've been, MIP is supposed to be a very busy time.

So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

crimsondanger10 · #11 01-19-2007, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

Agreed. My prophytes knew I had a child in the very beginning, and were very considerate of my circumstances. Thanks to my line sisters, I made it through my senior year of college, single parenthood, and being online all at the same time. I don't think I could have made it without them (line sisters and prophytes)knowing this information.

I would kinda be

at one of my line sisters revealing this type of information later on because we discussed those types of things during our bonding process.

Just my opinion as it relates to my situation.

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #12 01-19-2007, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by crimsondanger10

Agreed. My prophytes knew I had a child in the very beginning, and were very considerate of my circumstances. Thanks to my line sisters, I made it through my senior year of college, single parenthood, and being online all at the same time. I don't think I could have made it without them (line sisters and prophytes)knowing this information.

I would kinda be

at one of my line sisters revealing this type of information later on because we discussed those types of things during our bonding process.

Just my opinion as it relates to my situation.

sounds like you had a great support system Soror...I guess everyone's "process" is somewhat unique...but now "my soul looks back and wonder" and my LSs and I can laugh as we reminisce on that time...

DSTCHAOS · #13 01-19-2007, 07:09 PM

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"my soul looks back and wonder"

Whatchu know about Mahalia? My favorite gospel artist EVER!

Richard Smallwood is #2.

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #14 01-19-2007, 07:57 PM

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Whatchu know about Mahalia? My favorite gospel artist EVER!

Richard Smallwood is #2.

Raised on her LPs on Saturday mornings while my Grandma cleaned the house...took me gaining some age to truly understand what I was forced to listen to..now I can appreciate the lessons..

Reds6 · #15 01-19-2007, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Your post was misleading because it read like you weren't forthcoming with the information. Then you stated it wasn't hard to not be forthcoming because you went to a large commuter school. Thanks for clarifying that everyone knew your age and the fact that you were a single parent. Well...I guess that's what you're saying.

As far as how "busy" you would've been, MIP is supposed to be a very busy time.

So having a child, or other obligations that a more traditional student might not have, is something that could be worked around if you're forthcoming.

Ditto!