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Scandia:
Is someone putting pressure on you to get married?
Do you know yourself well enough in order to be able to know what you're seeking? Do you know what's really important to you? Have you ever sat down and done any real soul searching to figure out what type of man would make you happy?
Maybe you would want to turn off what your friends and your family are telling you about what's right in a man for you... and listen to yourself. Afterall, only YOU know what's right for YOU.
Remember that your mother, your sister, and your best friend are all different people with different tastes, values, and needs and wants than you. The perfect man for your best friend or your mother may not be the perfect man for you.. so don't let them pick him for you. If you do.. you'll probably be miserable.
Right now, you're dating and seeing what works for you and what doesn't. As you go out with different men, see if you can identify which qualities are uppermost in what you're looking for. In other words, what are your "musts" and what are your "deal breakers?"
Some things to think about...
-Is he honest?
-Is he loving and caring?
-Do you two have enough in common in order to do things together far in the future? (An example might be-- you might have a passion for traveling, but he'd rather stay at home. Would this be a problem in the future? Or would you be happy traveling alone while he stays home?)
-On the other hand, do you both have your own separate interests so you can still be happy doing your own thing once in a while?
-How important is financial stabilty to you?
And here are some examples of what you may or not consider deal breakers:
-Does it bother you if he smokes? Or drinks? Or does drugs?
-Has he lied to you?
-Does he want kids and you don't?
-Is he deeply in debt? Or do you care?
Finally, I would urge you not to take dating as a "life or death" thing right now. Go out and have fun. Stop stressing over it. Once you feel confident in who you are.. when the right guy comes around, you'll know it.
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