Negotiation vs. Settling

[Scandia]

FSUZeta- my parents met at their workplace. It was in the early 70s, so laws were much more relaxed back then. A guy willing to convert is fine, as well as one who stays in his denomination but respects mine- but he HAS to believe in God, and his specific beliefs should be close to mine (ie- no fundamentalists or radicals). Regarding intelligence and education- well, the technical diploma is not as extreme a case as someone who has dropped out of high school due to lack of intelligence and ambition. I would have to see exactly if we get along and share the same educational level and interests- in other words, he needs to understand my big words and not make fun of my using them.

Valkyrie- the next to last guy I dated (back in 2004) wanted to have a large family. That is the main reason why things did not work out between us. Sure sure, there were other problems- but if he states this reason to a girl as to why things did not work out between him and I, neither one of us will look bad.

Centaur- this may be due to the language barrier, but for some reason I thought that compromise carried a stronger degree that negotiation. That "negotiate" meant "oh, he has brown hair and eyes, instead of blonde hair and blue eyes which are my preference, but otherwise he meets all my needs and wants", but compromise meant more like "I'll deal with his dislike of animals because he's dealing with my being no good at cooking". And of course, settling was like "he does not have the intelligence or ambition to have a career, but at least he has a job and is not mooching off me, so oh well. Guess I should be grateful for that". And why do you not recommend Joshua Harris?