How important is family background to you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What is it? Is it a total deal breaker for you?

You're absolutely right. Yes, it is a deal breaker for me. A good family and a two parent home are important to me. I'm not saying a single parent cannot raise a fine young man/woman, it is just what I prefer. I think a father in the household is very important (to me). I also look at how close the family is. Also, she has to share/have similar values that I was raised to have.

As far as dating is concerned, I date for one reason and one reason only, and that is to enter into courtship with one woman, from courtship to marriage. Dating for any other reason, is a waste of my time. When you marry, not only do you marry your partner, you marry into the family as well. Christmas/Thanksgiving are holidays when family get together to celebrate, and the last thing I want, is to be around a ghetto, trifling family. I don't care if she's white, black, yellow or red. To me, ghetto is ghetto and trifling is trifling. In my past relationship, my ex had issues with me, because I didn't like to be around her family. I was like you, I looked at the woman and the woman only. I paid no attention to the family. I learned my lesson from that. My reason for not wanting to be around her family was because they smoked weed, got drunk, hung out at strip clubs etc etc. That sort of thing and that is not my type of crowd. I don't come from that type of family and I don't want a woman that does either. Like I said in another thread. The foundation of what I look for in a woman are:

God-meaning she has to put Him before all things.
Family-I already summed that up in this thread and others.
Education-She's got to be educated.

If she's got the foundation, then we can move to the next level. But yes, the family is very, very important to me. IMO, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

And no she doesn't have to be from some "royal family" and speak like some queen. You're a trip.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

(I used to think Catholics prayed to the Virgin Mary. )
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I always thought they did to. The whole "Hail Mary full of grace mother of God" thing.

Originally Posted by DrPhil

This matters to me but not because I will judge him. I will judge his family and those family members won't be coming around our household.

If someone is not taking charge of their life and/or in trouble all the time, I refuse to allow them to add drama to my life. That includes constantly having a problem to talk about or asking to borrow money. I feel no shame in telling anyone "no."

What if he's close to his family and has a problem with you telling them no?

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

they smoked weed, got drunk,

^^^I knew I would see this somewhere in your post.

As soon as I saw your username, I said "Oh dear, here we go."

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What if he's close to his family and has a problem with you telling them no?

He wouldn't have been in my life.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

^^^I knew I would see this somewhere in your post.

As soon as I saw your username, I said "Oh dear, here we go."

See? I was nice this time.

It could have been worse. I could have posted: "I don't want to be around a family full of domino rackin,' weed smokin,' Johnny Walker drinkin,' sorry azz jokers".

Right?