Is sex really that big of a deal?

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Hmmm....I always felt this way until recently. BC yes, but a condom with my own husband? Now I've heard the horror stories about women and children getting HIV from daddy, even though mommy waited to she was married. It's devastating and my husband's gettin' tested for everything under the sun before we walk that walk, but even so....It's just pathetic where our world is that you have to say, "I'm dedicating my life to you, but I still think you might give me something."

So, I posted the info on GC when someone sent it to me. But a few months ago an official at the CDC quoted as saying "even if you are married, an African American women who is married to an African American man should make him wear a condom".

It is located somewhere on CDC fact sheet.

I know that's pretty jacked up and quasi-racist, you just NEVER KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND!!! And soon it will be SPOUSE. That's going to accelerate the decline in "traditional marriage". Another topic for another day.

So, I don't know if you can have the sexual confidence and emotional stabilization without actual the premarital sex and potential humiliation associated with it. But I have seen many a hurt woman who entrusted her heart to asswipes. I only hope they used protection. Because it's not just HIV/AIDS, but HPV, Hepatitis and Herpes. As well as Syphillis, Gonorrhea and Chlamydia. Any of these STI's potentiate the risk of HIV/AIDS. Most folks carry 1-2 other these infections before contracting HIV/AIDS.

Don't think of it as "I don't trust you". If you don't take him yourself to the hospital and see blood drawn and open the results when he gets it, then you will never know. It won't protect you from his potential philandering. But it will ease your mind.

The Tantra will teach you that you expand your Universe of your own expression, your "occupant" is required to make supplication and offering to eternal love as a product of his love and thoughts needed to truly sustain the true essence of the relationship.

Basically, if he says he loves you, he would show you and do it, without question...

And what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

So, make it an outing.