Is sex really that big of a deal?

BlessedOne04 · #1 03-15-2007, 10:50 PM

Um yeah what AKA Monet said. Let me get my pen that is good material!!

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #2 03-15-2007, 11:04 PM

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Drolefille · #3 03-16-2007, 01:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

If you want to date a guy who's goal isn't to steal your virginity, then it will take a little work. Those guys do exist out there, but you have to look for them.

Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

christiangirl · #4 03-16-2007, 02:15 AM

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Amen.

That said, looking through a church or religious group is a good place to start

Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Drolefille · #5 03-16-2007, 02:29 AM

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Here's what happened the last time I found a guy at church.....I thought you might enjoy this: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=67657

Wow, Monet....that was a whol' lot in one post. Umm...well, in answer to some of that 1. I took the class because it was a psych class, part of my major, taught by my favorite professor 2. No, I'm not wavering, it's not worth it. 3. I'll keep all that in mind....tantric....hmmm....

Ok, well they're not ALL going to be winners... I was just thinking your odds would be better there. I'm lucky, I found my guy in high school but we share the same religion and beliefs and that has made a BIG difference in our relationship, sexual and otherwise.

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #6 03-16-2007, 10:27 AM

The guy that was Mr. Internet-Cartoon-Man was a guy I met at the Baptist organization at my college. However, I have met many wonderful guys in that same ministry. Every single guy you meet at churches and college ministries are not going to be amazing, but there are some that deserve a second glance

Diamond Darlin’ · #7 03-16-2007, 11:15 AM

Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

AlphaFrog · #8 03-16-2007, 11:25 AM

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Okay, so, I would just like to thank you. You've given me hope. LOL, I'm a Fr. and I have never had sex. I datd the same guy for four year, from 8th to 11th grade, we broke up when he joined his frat, and i was still in HS, and now 2 years later we are,... um... Friends, but more then that, I guess u could say friends with benifits cus neither of us is ready to put the work into a full time relationship, especially since we do not go to the same college, and it is hard for us to get to see one another. It has been a real strugle in the past that i wouldent have sex with him. I think it gets better and better, but I was begenning to feel like i was the only person in college who hasent had sex. It was driving me insane. Now i know there are others out there to look up to. THANKS!!!!

Hon, if you're a virgin, you do NOT have friends with benefits. Unless they're only getting the part-timer's compensation.

Diamond Darlin’ · #9 03-16-2007, 12:01 PM

LOL yeah, thats the interesting part, Have you ever had a physical relationshiip without actually having sex, well thats the same things we do. It's just like a relationship without sex, except you are allowed to see other people, you dont have to chack in, and we dont get too centimental, or atleast not most of the time

Jimmy Choo · #10 03-16-2007, 10:19 PM

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Hon, if you're a virgin, you do NOT have friends with benefits. Unless they're only getting the part-timer's compensation.

This is one of the best things I have ever read on GC.

cheerfulgreek · #11 03-17-2007, 12:14 AM

AKA Monet, you know so much. You're good

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I sat out of college for a year and through the 5 years I've completed I'm finally graduating this year

. Throughout college I slept with one guy. My X who turned out to be a jerk. He new I was a virgin and he treated me like a queen until one thing led to another. After that he started acting like a jerk, then he cheated on me. I was so hurt. I dated other guys but I wasn't intimate with them. At the time I wanted my X back. He kept wanting to get back together, and I did everytime, thinking he would change, but he didn't. He only would want me back whenever he had a problem with semen back-up

, if you girls know what I mean. He wants to get back again now, but I'm not going to do it again. I think sex is great but only with a guy who really cares for me and loves me. Don't give in if you don't think it's right, remember guys will use you. They're such pigs, well at least most of them are. Make sure he's caring, loving and of course attractive to you. Sometimes it's hard to to tell, but you'll know. Make him wait a long long time and see how long he sticks around. If he bails, then he's a pig. Well, then again I made my X wait a year. He waited, but I heard that he had other girls on the side without me knowing about it. He such an ass. Well good luck!! Keep us posted.

tld221 · #12 03-17-2007, 12:29 AM

for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

James · #13 03-17-2007, 12:58 AM

They are not the same?

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for a minute i thought cheerfulgreek = christiangirl. anyone else?

PrettyBoy · #14 03-17-2007, 01:45 AM

I don't think it's a big deal at the beginning. Now, eventually I'm gonna be ready to get busy with her, but for the most part, I gotta know the girl for a while before I'm intimate with her. She has to be the one. I've always been a one woman man, so I've never been down with sleeping around with a lot of women, that's why I wouldn't get involved with a woman who has slept with a lot of guys. I didn't and don't sleep around, so I don't think I should be with someone who has. Christiangirl if I were you, I would wait until you either get married or find the right guy. It really is no way to know if you'll get it right the 1st time, that's the risk you'll have to take. Men/women now a days are a trip. People just aren't into long term courting and marriage like they were 50 years ago. It's all about who can I take home from the club tonight, or how can I brag about taking a woman's virginity. Hold out as long as you can. Good luck.

cheerfulgreek · #15 03-17-2007, 10:08 AM

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I don't think it's a big deal at the beginning. Now, eventually I'm gonna be ready to get busy with her, but for the most part, I gotta know the girl for a while before I'm intimate with her. She has to be the one. I've always been a one woman man, so I've never been down with sleeping around with a lot of women, that's why I wouldn't get involved with a woman who has slept with a lot of guys. I didn't and don't sleep around, so I don't think I should be with someone who has. Christiangirl if I were you, I would wait until you either get married or find the right guy. It really is no way to know if you'll get it right the 1st time, that's the risk you'll have to take. Men/women now a days are a trip. People just aren't into long term courting and marriage like they were 50 years ago. It's all about who can I take home from the club tonight, or how can I brag about taking a woman's virginity. Hold out as long as you can. Good luck.

O.K. I have to ask you a question, and I'm not trying to be sarcastic in anyway, so don't take offense to it. Just answer the question. If you're this faithful one woman guy

, why are you single? According to some of your past post you're single, unless you've gotten into a relationship since then. I'm asking because I can't see why you would be single if you're this one woman "cute" guy that you call yourself. I'm just really curious. How long would you have to know the girl before you're intimate with her?