What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[southernelle25]

If dude has a curl, s-curl, or relaxer/perm... red flag.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by southernelle25

You are a trip.

I don't like ankle bracelets either. Definite red flag.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I forgot to mention tatoos and body pearcings are both red flags for me too. Everytime she tries to call she'll get the v-mail and no return call. And then I'll press the delete botton.

LOL, if you're a grown man and not a child, it's generally a good idea to, you know, grow a pair and tell a woman you're not interested instead of avoiding her.

[jubilance1922]

Hmmm...I'm really surprised by some of the comments in this thread, especially the ones about family. I guess if that's working for some folks, then keep doing what you're doing. But it seems extremely judgemental to me to deem a person unacceptable because of the actions of their family. I know someone who didn't come from the greatest home life, she had a crack addicted mother, a brother in a gang, and a sister who was a teenage mother. Yet this woman did not fall victim to any of that, in fact, she finished school, got married, and raised 4 beautiful, well adjusted, law-abiding kids. And she did it all without having to cut off her relationships with her family...and her family wound up getting it together because she was such a good influence.

But then again, you don't get to choose your family, and you certain cant change the behavior of another adult.

As for me, the biggest red flag is judgement. I cannot stand a person who feels that they are better than other people, or that the way they choose to live their life is best for everyone. I live my life the way is best for me, and if you don't like it, you are free to move on to someone who is more "moldable".

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

LOL, if you're a grown man and not a child, it's generally a good idea to, you know, grow a pair and tell a woman you're not interested instead of avoiding her.

I gotta agree. Tell her. Then when she starts stalking you, you can avoid her with the delete and ignore buttons.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

LOL, if you're a grown man and not a child, it's generally a good idea to, you know, grow a pair and tell a woman you're not interested instead of avoiding her.

[hijack]

I was wondering where you've been and when you were going to post?!? Hope you had a nice holiday.

[/hijack]

[teena]

Yellow flags

-Really close friends with most recent ex
-Thuggy friends
-a lot of male gay friends
-no female friends
-dislikes his mother

Red flags
-No car
-Doesnt go to church
-No job
-wont shut up
-no sense of humor

[FAB*SpiceySpice]

Originally Posted by teena

Yellow flags

-Really close friends with most recent ex

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is a little uncomfortable with this, I know some people might say this makes me "insecure" or whatever but I don't care. I just think it's a little bizarre to be extremely close to the person you last broke up with, I mean wasn't there a reason why you guys are not together anymore? Who knows.


Also to echo Dolphinchica and Centaur (though this is not technically a "first date" thing) but if we're going somewhere over night or I'm staying at your place/you're staying at mine, please don't comment on my bag 'o drugs. I need those pills to stay alive and there is NO reason why you should even see them b/c I always take them in the bathroom (alone!). If you point them out, then I will know that you're really nosy and have been looking through my stuff (happened several times). And if I wanted you to KNOW what all those meds are for, I'd tell you.

[RoyalEmpress33]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Let's say you were on a 1st date with someone and everything is going great. The conversation is good, and you're physically attracted to this person. During the conversation what would raise a yellow flag, and what would raise the red flag for you to say: "Oh hell no! There will not be a 2nd date!"

Wow, this is a good question. I think I have been blessed with the ability to find out within the first few minutes if I'll be dating someone period, let alone a second date.

Now, let's see here:

1.) I would look to see how he treats the women in his family. If I ahead of time find out that his rapport with the family isn't stellar, he might as well hang it up because there will be no second date. Red flag! Just stop right there.

2.) If he walks around with his pants hanging off of his behind(not that there is anything wrong with that, if that's what you like), there will be no second date. That's just not for me. You don't have to walk around dressed like your going to the academy awards, but you need to look decent. You're an ADULT now. Red flag.

3.) If he's not chivalrous. Nope. No second date. Treat a woman like a woman and remember to open doors, and pull out seats. I know this is 2007 and times have changed, but mannerisms shouldn't. I know this may seem kind of mean or even silly, but so what? Chivalry is like totally dead and decaying.

4.) I would consider myself an intellectual kind of girl so if he's more preoccupied with what happened on 106 & Park or the latest version of Jordans that came out, he can count me out.

5.) If he's sarcastic. He might as well not even bother calling.

6.) If he stays in the mirror more than I do, I would be worried. True, you should care about your image, but my goodness.

7.) If he talks too much, there will be no second date.

8.) I can't stand emotional or whiny type guys. No female wants another female around so if he's a whiny brat that always finds something to complain about, he needs to stay away from me.

9.) If he indicates anything that would make me think he is controlling. Uh uh, that's not going to work. If he thinks he's going to control me, he's got the wrong sista!

10.) If he smokes, ummm, ewww! That's gross. Cancer sticks-bleh!

11.) If he's a momma's boy, he might as well stay there with his mommy and not bother me.