My Boyfriend's Fraternity Hates My Sorority

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I have two thoughts.

Originally Posted by Jp685

Like I can go to their parties and bring a couple sisters with me, but the only reason I can do that is because I was dating a brother. If any of my sisters tried to go to a party without me, they wouldn't be allowed in. It's just childish like grow up. They know my sisters and they aren't bad people but because they aren't a "higher tier" sorority- nope sorry can't come in we're full. I just don't feel like putting up with that shallow mindset anymore..

1. Sounds like a bunch of really douchetastic men. I've rarely heard of a fraternity that gives a rats behind about what letters women have. Girls are allowed into fraternity parties. Almost always.

Originally Posted by Jp685

Issues with my boyfriend?

I mean he's not necessarily the gentleman type. His idea of taking me out on a date is taking me to a party at his dirty fraternity house which are always fun, but still I'd rather go see a movie or eat dinner than have random guys try to hit on me at a party. And sometimes at the party he just leaves me to socialize with random people while he shotguns with his brothers in the backyard. I've let it go because the parties are fun, but I feel like I deserve better treatment. It's too much greek life for me like sometimes I need to get away and just relax at home with my sisters. And when I tell him I don't want to go to a party, he gets really sad like "But I love having you there it's only a fun party when you're there with me" so I kind of get guilted into going every time. And when only a couple of my sisters are there it's not as fun because I can't take all my friends to his parties only a couple. I'd rather just do things with my sisters than be treated poorly by him. I guess I just let it all go before, but I guess his views on my sorority really just opened my eyes to see that I could do a lot better.

Sounds to me as if he wants to party with his friends and make sure you're available for the after party. I don't know you, but you deserve better.